Assumptions, Hypothetical Cases, Conclusions, Control

Assumptions, Hypothetical Cases, Conclusions, Control

The four components of co-dependence are patterns of control of others, compliance to others (a pattern of fixing, pleasing others as it reflects situations/circumstances, the big component of being a being in denial of ones' patterns and low self-esteem.

Sometimes our patterns or insecurities cause us to make judgments which result in our needs reflective of neediness to control situations, people, or cirucumstances. Sometimes we strive for understanding in order to control a set of circumstances or a situation. We can then make assumptions, create hypothetical cases, formulate conclusions in order to control people, circumstances, or situations. In reality we are creating hypothetical cases that reinforce our need to reflect of our neediness to experience security; usually emotional security.

It's important for us to become aware of and alert to making erroneous judgments and creating hypothetical cases because of a need or neediness to arrive at a solution or resolution of a situation because of our need to control.

There are times when we are not alert to or aware of our responses and reactions that cause us to make assumptions, judgments, create hypothetical cases, and arrive at conclusions. The reason could be our fears that result in our patterns. Often, we've been hurt or traumatized early on in our childhoods.

If we are willing to do inner child work regardless of the chosen process; we can recognize, begin to become aware of and awaken to consciousness our reasons for our behaviors. It's incumbent upon us to do the personal growth work and process our feelings reflective of our emotions and effectively, efficiently, with discipline again, and again, and again to address our patterns of co-dependencies.

I write about inner child work in my books. Please take a moment to check them out on the side panel, purchase many of them. The books are now available on Kindle. I'm available for presentations, for fees and expenses and available for spiritual counseling/consulting work here in San Diego or by phone at 619-584-8093. It's also possible to click the "donate" button and send a contribution to Life's Breath Publications and Ministries to support my writing that empowers others through my loving insights. Please check out the website as well.

Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.