Making the Connections

Making the Connections

When I'm hurt by others; it may be an opportunity for me to experience more self-discovery. It may be an opportunity for me to become emotionally stronger. It may be an opportunity for me to breath deep into the depths of my emotional body and "experience" and release the emotional pain. I usually use primal sound to achieve profound personal growth reflective of a present time hurt. I find that I make cognitve connections in practicing primal sound after my being, being hurt.

Recently, someone "screamed" at me and I used this experience to process the terror I experienced. I cleared the emotion, "the terror" by using primal sound and made some remarkable connections.

I also was able to see my way clear of emotionally hurt to respond by reacting by writing a letter to the "screamer" and explaining/clearifying the circumstances and situation of my actions.

I'm powerless over others behavior. I cannot control others. Therefore, it's reason for me to only, only think well of myself. I have often felt hurt, poorly of myself, guilty that it was "my fault" that they are behaving by screaming at me. My realization is "I have absolutely no control over how others react or respond. If and when they respond/react by screaming at me; it most certainly doesn't mean I'm at fault! It's others choice to choose to begin screaming. Perhaps, others are frightened and that is why they have choosen to react/respond by screaming? For whatever the reason for their behavior; I ought to think well of myself because I do not have control over their behavior. I'm powerless over their behavior. It's their choice to behave as "they" do!

We're born naturally believing that we are all powerful in our worlds. When others behavior inpacts us with hurt or trauma; we become confused and there is a need for us to emotionally clear the feelings reflective of our hurt and traumatized emotions. We learn that our power has limitations! It's a very, very, rude awakening into reality.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology.

"Pressing"

"Pressing"

Does the emotional stress and distress ever evolve to a point where it's "pressing" against you in the walls of your skull? Does the tension ever feel unbearable. Did you ever think "I cannot take it anymore and something "inside of me" has just got to give"! The tension is "pressing" and I just got to let go, let it out, release it, relinquish it, discharge it and free myself from and of it! Well, we've all been there.

Yes, it feels good to exercise; jog, aerobics, dance, but do we in real terms get it out? In a "Letter to Petra"; I describe a variety of ways how one can process the stress and distress. We all have our vulnerabilities and accumulate feelings of distress and stress within.

I like "animated laughter with feelings" and primal sound for "really" getting my tension out. It works extremely well for me. The "pressing" becomes a depressing experience and not a depression experience. The difference is huge.

I've learned the manifestations of emotional release and I'm very thankful that I have mastered the manifestations. The yawn, animated laughter, tearing, sobbing, shaking, hot, cold sweats to name but a few. They have saved my live. Now, it's your turn. What works for you? Now, what really can work better for you?

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior Masters.

"I'm Only In Faith Because of My Connection to My Higher Power"

"I'm Only In Faith Because of My Connection to My Higher Power"

My client purchased a Medical Plan from me in the month of November. It was scheduled to go into effect on January 1st 2011. I faxed it to the company on a date certain in November without a confirmation from the machine. It was my mistake of not obtaining the machine confirmation. I've never had an issue with the company receiving any of my faxes. I attempted to confirm by phone on January 6th and to my great surprise the company claimed that it had not received the fax. I phoned several times and the company confirmed that it had not received the fax and I didn't have the November fax confirmation that I had sent it. The company claimed that they couldn't give my client an effective date for the plan without the fax confirmation. I would have to wait until the subsequent week before the Federal Agency would make a decision as to whether or not my client would receive an effective date. regardless, the effective date, if given would be in February.

I needed to make a decision whether to wait until the subsequent week or telephone the client and notify him. I decided to have faith in my higher power, think well of myself and make the phone call to my client. My client returned my phone call and stated that it wasn't an issue for him because I had mailed him a letter stating not to cancel his present plan in the month of January until he received confirmation that his new plan had gone into effect. I couldn't believe it! I in fact mailed that letter to him in November just as an instinctive, impulsive action never dreaming that his application would be lost. I never, but never send a letter to any of my clients instructing them to maintain insurance coverage until they receive confirmation from the new plan. My connection with my higher power together with my past experience is the only explanation I could possible give for maintaining trust and confidence with my client.

Please purchase my books on the side panel. You'll learn by practicing the methods in my books how to embrace the connection with a higher power each and every day. The higher power works in our lives to help us to help ourselves.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology

Empowering the Collective Consciousness

Empowering the Collective Consciousness

The theme "I Dare to Heal" is in essence "We Dare to Heal"! The goal of the theme of this blog is to empower the collective consciousness by connecting with our higher power for the expansion of all components of the self; mental, emotional, physical, social, spirit, spiritual, heart, and soul centers.

The power and empowerment of the collective spiritual consciousness has produced great religions, Christianity, Islam, to name but a few. The greater collective spiritual consciousness facilitates a connection with but one higher power. The higher power has the potential to help us to help ourselves to heal our hurts, and traumas. If and when we allow and permit our higher power by way of a variety of methods to support us to process our feelings reflective of our emotions; we can facilitate our healing by way for example of the circular healing breath methods. It's our choice. My question is what is your choice?

Please check out and purchase many of my books on the side panel. The books suggest many methods to accomplish the natural healing of our collective hurts and traumas. I'm also available for counseling others on co-dependency issues in San Diego or by E-mail subscription.

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Joel BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior, Psychology.

Clearing Emotion

Clearing Emotion

Are you "very" emotional. Do you react/respond in an exaggerated emotional way. Is it your temperament; an aspect of your personality? Is it unfulfilled past or present needs that fuel your emotional reactions/responses? Does the above circumstances trigger impulsive/compulsive decision making on your part. Has it caused you to make unhealthy or healthy decisions? It's certainly difficult to descern whether or not ones decisions have been impacted by emotions. Have the emotions caused confusion for you.

I have found by clearing my emotions through a variety of methods, by processing my emotions; I've been able to "get clearer" in my "thinking" and therefore have been able to make more decisive decisions.

One aspect of co-dependency behavior is the inability to make decisions; to procrastinate or not make a decision at all. When you in fact do not make a decision in essence you have made the decision not to "not make a decision".

The resolution is that we can only do the best we can and that it's helpful to clear our emotion before deciding. It's appropriate to evaluate the information we have on and in hand; seek more information and then make the decision. What's your point of view?

Please check out my books on the side panel. They're available from Barnes & Noble or from pay pay on my website. There are many go to methods in the books that help people to clear emotions and facilitate decision making.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology.

Patience in and to Setting Boundaries

Many who suffer from co-dependency impulsively have an "inability to see alternatives to situations,thus respond very impulsively" and set boundaries in their relationships. This is true in family relationships where a wife or husband "must" be with "their" family during the holidays. Where there is a disagreement between the partners as to filling or satisfying "needs" in family relationships impulsively setting boundaries by one or the other partner may not be wise. It's here where compromise is necessary from "both partners". Often, one of the partners "declare", "it has to be "my" way. One may alienate the other partner with a "my way" boundary. It's a relationship and therefore compromise is necessary "most of the time". Both partners deserve to "get" their needs met with compromise.

Please check out my books on the the side panel and purchase the books for your friends, acquaintances, spiritual houses of worship, and community organizations. The books describe many methods as to how to approch ingrained, hard wired, imprinted, compulsive unhealthy behavior patterns.

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Joel BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters in Human Behavior Psychology

Is It Time to Get Recovery?

Is It Time to Get Recovery?

It's a new year and yes it's time to get recovery. There are many who daily are "in need" of recovering from co-dependency issues. The categories of controlling others, pleasing others, walking around in denial of resentments, fearful, sadnesses prevail. The experience of low self-esteem, hurting family members, fellow employees, friends exist. It's definitely time to make amends to yourself and to others. I encourage those to take action and join a co-dependency anonymous meeting and begin "again" on the road to more awareness of issues and learn to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to address issues.

Please check out my books on the side panel. I'm available for relationship counseling here in San Diego and available to make presentations about both the new medical care affordable act and anything that I've written on the blog or in my books.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior.