The Spiritual Power of Surrender

The Spiritual Power of Surrender

Often, we are reluctant to surrender to and of our so-called vulnerabilities. We are often reluctant to show so-called "weaknesses". We are afraid to share our hurts and traumas. We don't express our flaws. We just don't normally do it because we become vulnerable to others judgements, others critical comments, vulnerable to our own internalized pain. Often, we stay in denial. We keep the suppressed feelings stored within ourselves. Well, it's just not healthy to do so.

If and when we reveal our hurts, our traumas, our so-called defects of character; if and when we learn or become willing to surrender our defenses and then surrender our pain; we make it possible for ourselves to connect with the empowerment of a higher power.

When we surrender our defenses and connect with the feelings reflective of emotions and let go of or painful feelings; we make it possible for ourselves to connect with the empowerment of our higher power. We become emotionally and spiritually stronger. We grow up and our maturity of self occurs.

Please take a moment and check out my books on the side panel. I'm sure you'll find an inspirational account of my own personal growth. I wrote the books to inspire others to begin their personal journeys.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.

The Embedded Spirituality of Spirit

The Embedded Spirituality of Spirit

I have pain in my lower back. Perhaps it's from the connection with my replaced knee joint or perhaps its from the connection with my arthritic right hip. They phoned today from the orthopedic clinic asking me to return the phone call regarding an appointment. They had received the documentation from the X-ray indicating an arthritic condition requiring a consultation with a orthopedic surgeon. I was happy to be consulting with a surgeon of my choice. However, the appointment is over three months from now. I'll phone each week and ask whether or not a cancellation had occurred and whether or not an appointment would be possible.

I attended a spiritual support ground this evening after work and in my sharing I reconnected with a spiritual power within me. I shared about the physical pain and how my connection with my higher power has helped me. I can often sense how after an opening invocation "prayer", said in a communal way; I can actually sense the overwhelming presence of a spiritual power in the room. I shared how several of my joints had already been replaced and shared as well an affirmation how "My body is made of stainless steel".

I felt the spiritual connection yet stronger in my body. I felt it embedding deeper in the cells of my body. I felt the strength of spirit in me and the transcendence and transformation of the pain into stainless steel. It was yet another spiritual awakening and connection to my spiritual power.

Please check out my two books on the side panel. I'll be doing my "Animated Laughter with Feelings" class Sunday March 6th at the First Spiritual Church San Diego locatied at 3777 forty-second street. All are welcomed to participate.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior.

I Don't Buy Into Paralyzing Terror!

I Don't Buy Into Paralyzing Terror!

The Secretary stated that I needed to schedule an appointment with a orthopedic surgeon who specializes in both knee and hip. It's odd how unawarely I became paralyzed by terror at her words. I was not fully aware emotionally of the ramifications of of what the Secretary had said. At first, I thought, wow a clinic that knows their stuff. At first, I felt relieved but slowly during the day was paraylzed by the thought of having a revision of my already replaced right knee joint and in addition a replacement of a right hip joint. After all, the pain experience was huge with the last knee replacement. The thought of the pain was enough to paralyze me into sheer terror. Well, I most certainly felt it! However, I had gotten through it all!

My solutions was primal sound. I used the breath to go deep and again, again, and again to go into, to access, to connect with, to then go into, the feelings and then to choose to surrender the emotion, to release it, to relinquish it, to let it go, to discharge it, the fear, to the great spirit. The result was and is now faith.

If I was to once again to descend into the depths of paralyzing terror my answer and action regarding the emotion would be the same. I have but present time and choose always to remain in emotional freedom from paralyzing emotional terror.

Please check out my books on the side panel. The books offer many choices for letting go. I'm available for presentations for fees and expenses.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behaior.

Caffea Arabica

Caffea Arabica

She developed a"Garden for Health" in a famous park in San Diego, California. It was her contribution to humankind here on earth. She loved kids and was committed to their education. Her labors as a substitute teacher were self-sacrificing. In fact, self-sacrificing was a common component to her personality. I told her that it was an unhealthy occupation and encouraged her to end the torture. However, her mortgage needed to be paid and she persevered as a substitute teacher. She stayed in denial of its ill effects upon her health.

We had often hugged. The embrace was a sharing of love by two friends. The love had always been a friendship, nothing more. She was content with it.

It was over a year ago that we were together at the Los Angeles Times Festival of the books and I noticed in her words that she was losing touch with reality. I said nothing to her about it. My friend was ill and I knew it. I didn't think she was aware of her illness. She didn't know that cancer had begun its death march.

It was this time less than a year ago that I visited her in the hospital and brought her chocolate and flowers. I gave her a hug. I loved her. The illness was consuming her. It was the last time I saw her alive. It was but a short time after my visit that she passed.

I'm sad now as I write, and with sadness I was at her "garden" yesterday. I stood by her "Caffea Arabica" where her ashes had been laid. She had donated "Caffea Arabica" to the garden. I reached out and my arms formed an embrace and goose bumps streamed through my skin as I felt, as I felt her spirit embracing me. The energy was uncanny, electric, warm, and loving. The synchronicity of the experience was spiritual in nature, and her spirit was very present. I felt fear, and love because of the experience. However, I surrendered, let go of, relinquished the fear and now I'm left with the sadness of "Caffea Arabica".

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.

March 6th 2011, Sunday, "Animated Laughter with Feelings" Class

I will be having an "Animated Laughter with Feelings" Class on March 6th 2011, Sunday. The presentation and class will be held at the First Spiritualist Church located at 3777 Forty-Second Street, San Diego, CA 92105. The presentation will be held in the the church building at 11:00 a.m. and the class will be held at 1:15 p.m. in the social hall next to the church. Please bring a mat or blanket. There is a $20.00 fee for participants. Please be willing to sign a release of liability as well. The theory can be read on the May 24th 2010 post on this blog.

Please purchase the books on the right side panel which describes many healing methods. I'm available for counseling others here in San Diego. Please contact me by phone through www.idaretoheal.com

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psycholgoy, Human Behavior.

Authenticity

Authenticity

It's refreshing if and when an individual expresses their authenticity. If and when a person expresses themselves in clear word and sound. Often, we are significantly more interested in listening to what is being said. What is being said has more meaning, has tone, has emotional depth, degree, and dimension.

Of course, this is not always the case. It depends upon whether or not we have an interest in the subject? Often, a child develops an authentic tone in their development. It's wonderful to listen to a childs voice, a childs sound, a childs expressing their life in refreshing sound, body language, and emotions. After all, a child is closest to their emotions than any adult.

Children are the least encumbered by hurt and trauma so they are more apt to be most authentic in expressing themselves in the wide world. Just listen to a child or just watch their body language. Physically and emotionally they are the most connected of human beings.

Have you ever seen a child who has first learned to walk. Just watch as they take joy in walking or take even greater joy and enthussiasm in their first run! The expressed satisfaction is overwhelming for them and truly overwhelming for the observer. The observer can experience great joy in their zest and life's enthusiasm. How truly sweet, sweet it is to watch someone overflowing with joy. Don't you think!

My two books, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love", and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power", include many methods which support and help humankind to release inhibitions that prevent us from experiencing true joy in our lives. Please purchase them. I'm available for counseling in San Diego on co-dependency issues and am happy to make presentations for fees and expenses.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.

The Emotional and Spiritual Power of Anonymity

The Emotional and Spiritual Power of Anonymity

If you are familiar with the twelve step process then you are aware of both the principles and the traditions. There are many twelve step groups Co-dependency, Alcoholics, Adult, Narcotics, Sexual, Gambles, Addicts Anonymous.

Tradition 12 speaks to the significance, and the spiritual power of anonymity. When we meet in a 12 step support group we don't hand out business cards or as a principle speak about our professions.

This prevents us from looking up to personalities as authorities who will enhance our self-esteem. It's encumbent upon the individual themselves to enhance their own self-esteem and not feed off the self-esteem of others.

It also prevents us from judging others and judging ourselves. Internalization of self-invalidating judgements is defeating to self-esteem and manifests into a pattern of co-dependence.

By successfully working the twelve step process and traditions; it facilitates transcendence of internalized issues reflective of the pain. In doing so, it can result in the connection with a higher power.

Please purchase "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love" and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power" where I write about go to methods that one can use to release, relinquish, let go of, discharge, and surrender feelings reflective of emotions so that one can connect with a higher power. The books are sold by order through Barnes and Noble or on-line at my website.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior.

Acknowledging Imperfections Facilities Empathy and Self-Acceptance!

Acknowledging Imperfections Facilities Empathy and Self-Acceptance!

When a couple come to me for counseling and are pointing fingers at each other, reacting to each other; the realization is usually it's a pattern about the individual themselves and not, and not, about each other.

The first step is to use a variety of therapeutic techniques that I describe in my books so that each partner connects with their will, their willing (an intention) and their willingness (to commit) to begin to look at their imperfections. Achieving this, it opens the door to refraining from pointing fingers at each other.

I then counsel couples and facilitate each individual to acknowledge their individual imperfections usually coming from family of origin or from other hurt or trauma that the individual has experienced.

The next step is for the individual to begin feeling the feelings reflective of the emotions as it reflects the hurt or trauma. I use once again a variety of techniques that I describe in my books. It's powerful work. The processing of the feelings is one action. It works! I appreciate and ackowledge each partner for their effective work with my techniques.

The empathy for the self, the compassion for the self facilitates empathy, more self acceptance and compassion for each other. The result is greater respect and love for each other. Partners stop pointing fingers, stop attempting to change each other and just begin to accept and have empathy for each other as they each other are.

The result of the empathy and acceptance is that love, intimate love is initiated.

Please purchase my two books described on the side panels. Phone me for your counseling needs at 619-584-8093, invite me to do presentations before your groups for fees and expenses. I look forward to be hearing from you.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.

Economic Hardship, Jealousy/Ignorance/Anger/Resentment/Judgement/Prejudice

Economic Hardship, Jealousy/Ignorance/Anger/Resentment/Judgement/Prejudice

It's often that economic individual or group hardship leads to jealousy, ignorance, anger, resentment, judgement, internalized judgement and expressed and/or unexpressed prejudice. The internalized judgement can be other directed as well as self-directed. When one has the discipline to maintain the anger within then it can just create disharmony and disease. If and when one doesn't have the self-discipline to internalize the emotions/attitude then it's a basis for acting out one's feelings and emotions and can result in conflict with others.

If and when one has trained oneself to feel one's feelings; it's then that one can access the suppressed pain, process it, create a dynamic circumstance and situation of flexible intelligence and perhaps, perhaps find a vehicle to resolve the pain within. One can also determine options empower insights to resolve the economic issues and challenges that one experiences.

Think and listen sessions do help! It's where one receives undivided attention from an individual or group as one thinks through a economic challenge.

In addition,the resolution of emotional pain can facilitate flexible intelligence which creates a catlyst for economic insights, alternatives, and possible solutions.

The connection with the spiritual power/higher power is yet another result. The connection with the spiritual power/higher power may also result in creating insights that facilitate a renewed emotional strength that fosters solutions to economic challenges as well.

The emotional confusion is dissolved, the mental faculties are stimulated, clearer thought processes ensue, the mind can better rest, the intuition is triggered, the physical body is strenghten, the creative juices flow without restriction, the heart beat becomes toned, the soul rests easier, renewed energies facilitating new social relationships are created, the spirit is invigorated, and the spiritual connection is empowered.

Please take but a moment and then thereafter a great deal of time to check out, order/purchase dozens of my books located on the side panels. Please learn and practice the methods that are written in the books as well. I'm available for counseling here in San Diego, California. I'm a master of resolving co-dependency issues for couples and individuals. I use empathy, twelve step, empowerment training, manifestations of emotional release, peer counseling structure, affirmations, and mirror work.

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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology