The Applification of Ignorance
Humans who make assumptions, react with conclusions (prior to doing research and acquiring information educating themselves), are quick to make judgments, who lack critical thinking skills, invalidate, and form conclusions reflect applifications of Ignorance. Linear thinkers tend to applify ignornance. When individuals encounter a disease and begin to do research, educate themselves; it is then awareness and self-realizations occur. When individuals have the will, the willing intention, and the willingness, commitment to turn their dissonant feelings over to their higher power and surrender them then flexible intelligence takes charge.
Humankind that hold rigid values and beliefs that restrict their flexible intelligence facilitate self-destructive assumptions, reactions, responses, judgments, invalidations, inaccurate conclusions applify ignornance.
When I was a kid the ozone layer protected humankind from the danger of the rays from the sun. Now, with the depletion of the ozone layer there exists a major negative that impact humankind ie., the warming of planet earth, dramatic changes in weather patterns, and increased disease/discomfort. There are other examples as well.
The educated medical community have achieved great scientific progress. However, there ability to use spirituality, the manifestations of emotional release, connected healing breath methodologies have yet to have major impact on the healing powers from disease. Though the power of complementry alternative and integrative medicine has been initiated. Yet, I argue that we are just at the very beginning of its initiation. There are many examples, acupuncture, healing touch, reiki, yoga, and shiatsu (acupressure).
The psychological community who have touched the tip of the iceberg with their understanding and begining understanding of somatization or how the body harbors anxiety, and depression. The physiological release of emotion from the body have yet to be realized in the form of the manifestations of emotional release. The fear of surrender, release, relinquishment, discharge and the letting go of emotions still dramatically persists. Humankind just do not have the time to "be there" for another human being while they discharge their emotions and just let go again, and again, again, and again. It's just too uncomforable. This is yet a practice that is rare and socially unacceptable. Denial cannot be denied! There is still much denial. The reason is usually fear. Dramatic fear reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror still persists to just "be there" for another human being while they discharge their feelings reflective of their emotions. For example, when was the last time when "you" were there for someone and allowed them for an extended time to have a good cry in your presence?
It's incumbent on the individuals initiative to actively and assertively learn a variety of healing methods to compliment medical advances. I receive many comments asking me to applify my posts. Well, I encourage you buy my books and begin to practice the methods that I describe and write about in them. The methods I have practiced that I have written about have saved my life and reduced my emotional and physical pain dramatically.
Please purchase my books, make donations to the blogs, employ me as a holistic counselor, hire me for presentations, and phone me for consultations.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M. A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Monday, September 12, 2011
Sunday, September 11, 2011
9/11, Exerpt from "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power".
9/11, Excerpt from "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power"
Today is 9/11, ten years after. I sat in a CODA (co-dependence meeting) and shared my grief at the occurrence of the destruction of innocent lives . The tears rolled down my eyes. Here is an excerpt from my book "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power" as it reflects my visit to the site shortly after its destruction. I'm a New Yorker. I grew up on it's streets, its "projects", the red brick buildings. I went to its public schools and colleges. I walked the streets of Manhattan many times from the Village, Sutton Place, East Harlem, 34th street, Rockefeller Plaza, Olmstead's Central Park, the Upper West and East Sides, The Garment District, Park Avenue, Grand Central Station, Pennsylvania Avenue, Little Italy, Washington Square Park, Gramacy Park, Baruch College, Columbia University, Macy's, Soho, China Town, Germantown, Hell's Kitchen, the Lower East Side, Houston Street, 14th street, Chelsea, Herald Square, The Toy District, Stuyvesant Town, Cooper Union, New York University, Central Park West, Broadway, Frances Tavern, The Closters, Restaurant Row, The Theater, Shopping, The Museums, The Jewelry District, 666 Ffifth Ave, Wall Street, and of course the World Trade Center. These are but some of the places that are etched in my memory. It's also the experiences that I shared with others.
The Exerpt of Two Paragraphs
I approached ground zero after having lunch with Don Schmall and felt an immediate sense of grief at the magnitude of the tragedy that transpired at the site. I thought of those family members who were still in sheer grief of those who have lost their lives of their loved ones. I knew the key was for people to access their grief with listening support and negotiate their feelings. Again, this is a gradual process. The emotional impact of the bringing down of the Twin Towers at World Trade Center will be long lasting. The many lives that have been lost, the realization of vulnerability of the United States is yet to be realized. There are those individuals who have yet to realize their own impermanence and vulnerability in life. The shock is so great that denial permeates one's reality, awareness, and consciousness.
Humankind seemed frozen in an uncanny state of silence. I stood in but a small group of on-lookers. The shock of disbelief just seemed to permeate the moment. The rain was coming down upon the narrow street that bordered the former WTC site. Broadway was near and vehicles lumbered along the streets on either side. The crowd was small, but the silence was overwhelming. The smell of jet fuel and its stench in the surrounding air was evident. We seemed to share and feel a range of emotions which naturally rise within us. Anger of great depth, degree,and dimension was present. The density and intensity of the feelings of those surrounding me was unknown to me, but I certainly sensed strong emotions and the emotional vibrations from a shared sense of disbelief of others who stood shoulder to shoulder with me. Sadness and grief with its overwhelming sensation was incomprehensible to the intellect. I could sense these emotions as they penetrated through the crowd. It seemed we were spiritually one with these feelings, feelings, feelings. There was no stopping them. They came naturally. The feelings were overwhelming, numbing, and paralyzing. We seemed paralyzed in time and space in the moment. There was a knowing of the horror that took place here. Here! Nearby!
Please purchase the books located on the website: www.idaretoheal.com. Invite me for presentations, hire me for counseling sessions, single and couples, donate to the blog sites, and of course consultations.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Today is 9/11, ten years after. I sat in a CODA (co-dependence meeting) and shared my grief at the occurrence of the destruction of innocent lives . The tears rolled down my eyes. Here is an excerpt from my book "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power" as it reflects my visit to the site shortly after its destruction. I'm a New Yorker. I grew up on it's streets, its "projects", the red brick buildings. I went to its public schools and colleges. I walked the streets of Manhattan many times from the Village, Sutton Place, East Harlem, 34th street, Rockefeller Plaza, Olmstead's Central Park, the Upper West and East Sides, The Garment District, Park Avenue, Grand Central Station, Pennsylvania Avenue, Little Italy, Washington Square Park, Gramacy Park, Baruch College, Columbia University, Macy's, Soho, China Town, Germantown, Hell's Kitchen, the Lower East Side, Houston Street, 14th street, Chelsea, Herald Square, The Toy District, Stuyvesant Town, Cooper Union, New York University, Central Park West, Broadway, Frances Tavern, The Closters, Restaurant Row, The Theater, Shopping, The Museums, The Jewelry District, 666 Ffifth Ave, Wall Street, and of course the World Trade Center. These are but some of the places that are etched in my memory. It's also the experiences that I shared with others.
The Exerpt of Two Paragraphs
I approached ground zero after having lunch with Don Schmall and felt an immediate sense of grief at the magnitude of the tragedy that transpired at the site. I thought of those family members who were still in sheer grief of those who have lost their lives of their loved ones. I knew the key was for people to access their grief with listening support and negotiate their feelings. Again, this is a gradual process. The emotional impact of the bringing down of the Twin Towers at World Trade Center will be long lasting. The many lives that have been lost, the realization of vulnerability of the United States is yet to be realized. There are those individuals who have yet to realize their own impermanence and vulnerability in life. The shock is so great that denial permeates one's reality, awareness, and consciousness.
Humankind seemed frozen in an uncanny state of silence. I stood in but a small group of on-lookers. The shock of disbelief just seemed to permeate the moment. The rain was coming down upon the narrow street that bordered the former WTC site. Broadway was near and vehicles lumbered along the streets on either side. The crowd was small, but the silence was overwhelming. The smell of jet fuel and its stench in the surrounding air was evident. We seemed to share and feel a range of emotions which naturally rise within us. Anger of great depth, degree,and dimension was present. The density and intensity of the feelings of those surrounding me was unknown to me, but I certainly sensed strong emotions and the emotional vibrations from a shared sense of disbelief of others who stood shoulder to shoulder with me. Sadness and grief with its overwhelming sensation was incomprehensible to the intellect. I could sense these emotions as they penetrated through the crowd. It seemed we were spiritually one with these feelings, feelings, feelings. There was no stopping them. They came naturally. The feelings were overwhelming, numbing, and paralyzing. We seemed paralyzed in time and space in the moment. There was a knowing of the horror that took place here. Here! Nearby!
Please purchase the books located on the website: www.idaretoheal.com. Invite me for presentations, hire me for counseling sessions, single and couples, donate to the blog sites, and of course consultations.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Deep Seated, Imprinted, Embedded, Hard Wired, Compulsive, Neediness Reflective of Fetishes!
Deep Seated,Imprinted, Embedded,Hard Wired,Compulsive,Neediness Reflective of Fetishes!
Fetishes have been associated with an emotional disorder. It's my contention that there is a direct relationship of deep seated, Imprinted, Embedded, Hard Wired Neediness Reflective of Fetishes!
If and when one processes the inner pain reflective of emotional neediness (unfulfilled frozen need) the sexual attraction for an object begins to dissipate.
Often, one is totally unaware of the emotional connection between deep seated unaware neediness and an object. However, the result of processing pain reflective of deep seated emotional unfulfilled needs reflective of neediness will in fact dissipate the unaware attraction one has to an object.
The use of connected healing breath to address, access the deep seated feelings reflective of emotions and then to sigh, surrender, release, relinquish, discharge, and let go of the painful feelings reflective of the emotional unfulfilled needs produces definitive healing of the attraction that one has to an object.
Neediness is a chronic disease and it has many descriptive manifestations. The fetish is definitively one of them.
Buy my books located on the side panel. Donate to the site! Hire me to do presentations, consulting, counseling singles, pairs, and please just do it and do not hesitate. My contact information is at www.idaretoheal.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, MA. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior
Fetishes have been associated with an emotional disorder. It's my contention that there is a direct relationship of deep seated, Imprinted, Embedded, Hard Wired Neediness Reflective of Fetishes!
If and when one processes the inner pain reflective of emotional neediness (unfulfilled frozen need) the sexual attraction for an object begins to dissipate.
Often, one is totally unaware of the emotional connection between deep seated unaware neediness and an object. However, the result of processing pain reflective of deep seated emotional unfulfilled needs reflective of neediness will in fact dissipate the unaware attraction one has to an object.
The use of connected healing breath to address, access the deep seated feelings reflective of emotions and then to sigh, surrender, release, relinquish, discharge, and let go of the painful feelings reflective of the emotional unfulfilled needs produces definitive healing of the attraction that one has to an object.
Neediness is a chronic disease and it has many descriptive manifestations. The fetish is definitively one of them.
Buy my books located on the side panel. Donate to the site! Hire me to do presentations, consulting, counseling singles, pairs, and please just do it and do not hesitate. My contact information is at www.idaretoheal.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, MA. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Addressing Panic Disorder
Addressing Panic Disorder
Panic Disorder is a knee jerk reaction. The use of breathwork facilitates moving beyond the knee jerk reaction reflective of the instantanious panic reaction. The knee jerk reaction reflective of the panic attack has instantaneous emotional depth, dimension, and degree. The "feelings reflective of the emotions" must be accessed. They can be accessed by the circular connected healing breath and then the release, discharge, relinquishment, and the letting go of feelings reflective of emotions must occur.
What's scary is the knee jerk panic reaction. We can free ourselves from the bondage of the knee jerk panic reaction by breathing into and beyond the "panic reaction". The practice, persistence, and learning the self-discipline of connecting with the feelings by way of the circular connected healing breath and their release will expedite and resolve panic reaction.
The discharge process facilitates our healing of the knee jerk panic attacks. Gradually, gradually, gradually will free ourselves from the instantanious reactions. The result is more self-confidence and freedom from this self-destructive pattern.
Please buy my books. I'm available for consultations, presentations, counseling individuals, and couples.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology Human Behavior.
Panic Disorder is a knee jerk reaction. The use of breathwork facilitates moving beyond the knee jerk reaction reflective of the instantanious panic reaction. The knee jerk reaction reflective of the panic attack has instantaneous emotional depth, dimension, and degree. The "feelings reflective of the emotions" must be accessed. They can be accessed by the circular connected healing breath and then the release, discharge, relinquishment, and the letting go of feelings reflective of emotions must occur.
What's scary is the knee jerk panic reaction. We can free ourselves from the bondage of the knee jerk panic reaction by breathing into and beyond the "panic reaction". The practice, persistence, and learning the self-discipline of connecting with the feelings by way of the circular connected healing breath and their release will expedite and resolve panic reaction.
The discharge process facilitates our healing of the knee jerk panic attacks. Gradually, gradually, gradually will free ourselves from the instantanious reactions. The result is more self-confidence and freedom from this self-destructive pattern.
Please buy my books. I'm available for consultations, presentations, counseling individuals, and couples.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology Human Behavior.
Monday, July 25, 2011
The Power and At Times Necessity of the Use of "Rage" in Your Relationships
The Power and At Times Necessity of the Use of "Rage" in Your Relationships.
If and when someone in your relationship circle friend, relative, client, co-employee or yes even employer becomes or is abusive verbally, then the necessity of the use of "rage" in the relationship may be justified.
If and when fear, temperament, desperation or a combination of the three or for whatever reason motivates an individual to behave in an abusive way; if he/she is unwilling to listen is impatient and continues to behave in an abusive way then "rage" maybe the only, only, answer.
The beauty of "Animated Laughter with Feelings" is it's use by a person to "process" feelings reflective of emotions in a constructive, positive, creative, high energy, and hilarious way. It's fun to process (let go of, discharge, relinquish, release) dissonant feelings reflect of emotions by way of "Animated Laughter with Feelings".
However,finding the voice for rage; asserting yourself with rage may not be easy. When we learn to process our feelings constructively then our connection with our instinctive reactions and responses facilitate our expression of our feelings and emotions. Instinctively, one may react or respond with rage out of sheer emotional self-protection.
The emotional "self" may experience emotional devastation because of verbal abuse. Our only choice just maybe a reaction and response of rage to protect ourselves.
Perhaps you can think of those times in your life when the use of rage maybe useful?
"God grant me the serenity to accept others, situations, circumstances that I cannot "control". There are times when we were infants the experience of terror from our family of origin members placed us in conflict with ourselves. Perhaps, we experienced emotional devastation from our family of origin. We were helpless and had no way of controlling the adults rage against us. The result was we were terrified. The terror caused us to attempt to control others behavior in relationship to ourselves. Underlying our need to control others was our accumulated terror of the adults in our lives acting act against us. The result was our emotional devastation. We developed the need to prevent our emotional devastation so we learned defenses in order to control their terrifying behaviors in relationship to ourselves. In present time, we developed an inner conflict. We needed to prevent them from acting out and emotionally devastating us. Our inner conflict resulted in anxiety. We can free ourselves by processing our pain; processing our feelings reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror. As we do so, we integrate the self, become more connected in mind, body, and spirit! We learn once again gradually to become precious and free!
"Rage" is definately only one way we can learn to express ourselves (if situations, circumstances call for it). "Rage" becomes but one form of expression in our arsenal to support and help us to protect the "self".
Please purchase my books located on the side panel. I'm available for presentations, holistic counseling, and consulting.
Best
Joel V BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
If and when someone in your relationship circle friend, relative, client, co-employee or yes even employer becomes or is abusive verbally, then the necessity of the use of "rage" in the relationship may be justified.
If and when fear, temperament, desperation or a combination of the three or for whatever reason motivates an individual to behave in an abusive way; if he/she is unwilling to listen is impatient and continues to behave in an abusive way then "rage" maybe the only, only, answer.
The beauty of "Animated Laughter with Feelings" is it's use by a person to "process" feelings reflective of emotions in a constructive, positive, creative, high energy, and hilarious way. It's fun to process (let go of, discharge, relinquish, release) dissonant feelings reflect of emotions by way of "Animated Laughter with Feelings".
However,finding the voice for rage; asserting yourself with rage may not be easy. When we learn to process our feelings constructively then our connection with our instinctive reactions and responses facilitate our expression of our feelings and emotions. Instinctively, one may react or respond with rage out of sheer emotional self-protection.
The emotional "self" may experience emotional devastation because of verbal abuse. Our only choice just maybe a reaction and response of rage to protect ourselves.
Perhaps you can think of those times in your life when the use of rage maybe useful?
"God grant me the serenity to accept others, situations, circumstances that I cannot "control". There are times when we were infants the experience of terror from our family of origin members placed us in conflict with ourselves. Perhaps, we experienced emotional devastation from our family of origin. We were helpless and had no way of controlling the adults rage against us. The result was we were terrified. The terror caused us to attempt to control others behavior in relationship to ourselves. Underlying our need to control others was our accumulated terror of the adults in our lives acting act against us. The result was our emotional devastation. We developed the need to prevent our emotional devastation so we learned defenses in order to control their terrifying behaviors in relationship to ourselves. In present time, we developed an inner conflict. We needed to prevent them from acting out and emotionally devastating us. Our inner conflict resulted in anxiety. We can free ourselves by processing our pain; processing our feelings reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror. As we do so, we integrate the self, become more connected in mind, body, and spirit! We learn once again gradually to become precious and free!
"Rage" is definately only one way we can learn to express ourselves (if situations, circumstances call for it). "Rage" becomes but one form of expression in our arsenal to support and help us to protect the "self".
Please purchase my books located on the side panel. I'm available for presentations, holistic counseling, and consulting.
Best
Joel V BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
Wednesday, July 6, 2011
Unfulfilled Needs, Emotional Pain Reflective of Frustrations, Neediness, Anxiety, Insecurity, Compliance, Low Self-Esteem, then Release, Recovery, Self-Acceptance.
Unfulfilled Needs, Emotional Pain Reflective of Frustrations, Neediness, Anxiety, Insecurity,
Compliance, Low Self-Esteem then Release, Recovery, Self-Acceptance.
The chain that I describe above reflects a profound co-dependence that originates from birth trauma, emotional neglect (lack of nurturing), developmental neglect, emotional abuse, and/or abandonment, separation, betrayal. The chain is triggered by events, situations, circumstances, that reflects similar occurrences.
The above links in the equation seem to hold true. They are definitively clear. Emotional healing and the use of healing methods are essential.
Fortunately, if and when self-help alternative and traditional methods are used then healing can and will take place. There is definitely hope. Most licensed Doctors do not have the experience to suggest complimentary and alternative medicine or methods of addressing the above chain of disease and healing procedures. I'm a product of positive results. It does take courage to heal. However, the courage does in fact come when an individual seeks methods that will help them to help themselves.
Rigid beliefs usually prevent people from "opening up". Rigid beliefs prevent people from "changing". The use of flexible intelligence dissipates if and when rigid mechanical responses and reactions result from emotional hurt and trauma. We often just do not think about our rigid, mechanical, so-called canned responses.
I think a discussion on "changing" will be a forthcoming post on this blog.
I'm available for holistic counseling, consulting, book presentations, Peer Counseling Classes, "Animated Laughter with Feelings" classes. Buy my books located on the side panel of the blog.
Best
Joel V.
Compliance, Low Self-Esteem then Release, Recovery, Self-Acceptance.
The chain that I describe above reflects a profound co-dependence that originates from birth trauma, emotional neglect (lack of nurturing), developmental neglect, emotional abuse, and/or abandonment, separation, betrayal. The chain is triggered by events, situations, circumstances, that reflects similar occurrences.
The above links in the equation seem to hold true. They are definitively clear. Emotional healing and the use of healing methods are essential.
Fortunately, if and when self-help alternative and traditional methods are used then healing can and will take place. There is definitely hope. Most licensed Doctors do not have the experience to suggest complimentary and alternative medicine or methods of addressing the above chain of disease and healing procedures. I'm a product of positive results. It does take courage to heal. However, the courage does in fact come when an individual seeks methods that will help them to help themselves.
Rigid beliefs usually prevent people from "opening up". Rigid beliefs prevent people from "changing". The use of flexible intelligence dissipates if and when rigid mechanical responses and reactions result from emotional hurt and trauma. We often just do not think about our rigid, mechanical, so-called canned responses.
I think a discussion on "changing" will be a forthcoming post on this blog.
I'm available for holistic counseling, consulting, book presentations, Peer Counseling Classes, "Animated Laughter with Feelings" classes. Buy my books located on the side panel of the blog.
Best
Joel V.
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Victim, Guilt, Dumping From Others, From Yourself!
Victim, Guilt, Dumping From Others, From Yourself!
Setting External Boundaries.
Have you ever felt like a victim. Has someone dumped their nonsense on you. Have you bought into it and experienced guilt. The guilt is destructive to the self. It can result in a sense of neediness. The guilt and the neediness result in a upset of and to the self. It causes a disconnect to the self. It can result in an emotional disconnect of mind, body, and spirit. It can cause a lack of your own self-acceptance and self-esteem. Well, the solution is to set boundaries and to assert yourself with the person who is dumping on you. The boundaries must be internal as well. We say "stop" to our internalizing any judgments we have about ourselves.
Perhaps you say that it's not so easy to set boundaries with others? If you say so then guaranteed the person who was dumping "knew" that you were emotionally vulnerable. Most likely, they intuitively knew that they could dump on you. Most likely, they picked up on your vulnerability because of their own insecurity. The picked up on it because they too are frightened insecure little girls or boys as well. They have a control pattern that perpetuates their own low self-esteem onto others through their invalidation and put-downs.
I have a friend whose former significant other grow up as a spoiled brat. Everything was given to them. They didn't have to work for things. They expected to be catered to. They expected to receive. They needed to go within and address their unfulfilled need for self-discipline and structure that was never imprinted, ingrained, and embedded within themselves. We must learn to set boundaries with these individuals and we must learn to assert our voices.
Some patterns begin at birth as trauma and expand lifelong. It's tough to determine that they are birth traumas unless one has effectively addressed them on an on-going basis. However, it can become clear in time as a pattern repeats itself and one becomes aware of the carriers story.
Setting Internal Boundaries.
It's important to stay alert and aware of your unfulfilled needs. Unfulfilled needs can trigger frustrations which in term can cause internalized self-anger, upset, and lower self-esteem. When we stay alert and aware of our unfulfilled needs we can address them by asking for support, by using our flexible intelligence and finding alternatives. Knee jerk self-defeating, internalized anger can only add fuel to a beginning fire. If and when we have self-discipline we can address immediately our unfulfilled needs by setting internal boundaries. We can use methods that resonate with us that puts a stop to emotional self-defeating emotions. We can also use our flexible intelligence to find alternatives in filling our unfulfilled needs.
Please purchase my books on the side panel or access them on amazon kindle. I'm available for counseling, consultations, presentations, and group motivational seminars.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Setting External Boundaries.
Have you ever felt like a victim. Has someone dumped their nonsense on you. Have you bought into it and experienced guilt. The guilt is destructive to the self. It can result in a sense of neediness. The guilt and the neediness result in a upset of and to the self. It causes a disconnect to the self. It can result in an emotional disconnect of mind, body, and spirit. It can cause a lack of your own self-acceptance and self-esteem. Well, the solution is to set boundaries and to assert yourself with the person who is dumping on you. The boundaries must be internal as well. We say "stop" to our internalizing any judgments we have about ourselves.
Perhaps you say that it's not so easy to set boundaries with others? If you say so then guaranteed the person who was dumping "knew" that you were emotionally vulnerable. Most likely, they intuitively knew that they could dump on you. Most likely, they picked up on your vulnerability because of their own insecurity. The picked up on it because they too are frightened insecure little girls or boys as well. They have a control pattern that perpetuates their own low self-esteem onto others through their invalidation and put-downs.
I have a friend whose former significant other grow up as a spoiled brat. Everything was given to them. They didn't have to work for things. They expected to be catered to. They expected to receive. They needed to go within and address their unfulfilled need for self-discipline and structure that was never imprinted, ingrained, and embedded within themselves. We must learn to set boundaries with these individuals and we must learn to assert our voices.
Some patterns begin at birth as trauma and expand lifelong. It's tough to determine that they are birth traumas unless one has effectively addressed them on an on-going basis. However, it can become clear in time as a pattern repeats itself and one becomes aware of the carriers story.
Setting Internal Boundaries.
It's important to stay alert and aware of your unfulfilled needs. Unfulfilled needs can trigger frustrations which in term can cause internalized self-anger, upset, and lower self-esteem. When we stay alert and aware of our unfulfilled needs we can address them by asking for support, by using our flexible intelligence and finding alternatives. Knee jerk self-defeating, internalized anger can only add fuel to a beginning fire. If and when we have self-discipline we can address immediately our unfulfilled needs by setting internal boundaries. We can use methods that resonate with us that puts a stop to emotional self-defeating emotions. We can also use our flexible intelligence to find alternatives in filling our unfulfilled needs.
Please purchase my books on the side panel or access them on amazon kindle. I'm available for counseling, consultations, presentations, and group motivational seminars.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Thursday, June 2, 2011
The Bi-Polar Relationship
The Bi-Polar Relationship
My friend received an eviction notice because of the behavior of their significant other at their rented residence. They had lived at their present residence for many, many years. My friend is a very solid, anchored in themselves as an individual. The significant other has bi-polar, schizophrenic mental illness. The significant other has had manic episodes over the years and the residents have been very patient with the behaviors. My friend has been through a great deal of emotional ups and downs over the past decades because of the behaviors of their partner. I have the greatest compassion for both of them.
It's important for a significant other to realize early on in a relationship the grief that a/ their partner can cause them because of manic behaviors. It's important for a significant other to decide early on whether or not to continue in a relationship with a diagnosed bi-polar schizophrenic. Love is a powerful motivating emotion that can keep individuals together. The power of loneliness is yet another.
Fortunately, spirit has a solution. A loving Spirit/God doesn't want a human being to suffer with pain in a partnership. A loving Spirit/God doesn't want a human being to "endure" pain and suffering. Enduring pain/suffering is self-destructive/self-defeating and truly unkind to self!
The use of the circular connected breath the attitude/mindset of connection, the attitude/mindset of sigh/surrender/release, the attitude/mindset of doing it again, the eleven manifestations of emotional release, the access to the pain by way of primal sound and a deepening connection with a loving higher power is a solution. Prayer is yet another way to learn transcendence and transformation of pain/suffering and experience serenity in a chosen relationship with a partner.
Please take a moment to check out my books on the side panel, purchase many of them through Barnes & Noble, Borders, and Amazon, Amazon Kindle. I'm available for counseling/consulting/presentations as well. Please donate to the sites including www.idaretoheal.blog.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's Psychology, Human Behavior
My friend received an eviction notice because of the behavior of their significant other at their rented residence. They had lived at their present residence for many, many years. My friend is a very solid, anchored in themselves as an individual. The significant other has bi-polar, schizophrenic mental illness. The significant other has had manic episodes over the years and the residents have been very patient with the behaviors. My friend has been through a great deal of emotional ups and downs over the past decades because of the behaviors of their partner. I have the greatest compassion for both of them.
It's important for a significant other to realize early on in a relationship the grief that a/ their partner can cause them because of manic behaviors. It's important for a significant other to decide early on whether or not to continue in a relationship with a diagnosed bi-polar schizophrenic. Love is a powerful motivating emotion that can keep individuals together. The power of loneliness is yet another.
Fortunately, spirit has a solution. A loving Spirit/God doesn't want a human being to suffer with pain in a partnership. A loving Spirit/God doesn't want a human being to "endure" pain and suffering. Enduring pain/suffering is self-destructive/self-defeating and truly unkind to self!
The use of the circular connected breath the attitude/mindset of connection, the attitude/mindset of sigh/surrender/release, the attitude/mindset of doing it again, the eleven manifestations of emotional release, the access to the pain by way of primal sound and a deepening connection with a loving higher power is a solution. Prayer is yet another way to learn transcendence and transformation of pain/suffering and experience serenity in a chosen relationship with a partner.
Please take a moment to check out my books on the side panel, purchase many of them through Barnes & Noble, Borders, and Amazon, Amazon Kindle. I'm available for counseling/consulting/presentations as well. Please donate to the sites including www.idaretoheal.blog.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's Psychology, Human Behavior
Monday, May 16, 2011
The Dissipation of Chronic Distress
The Dissipation of Chronic Distress
We had a Business Networking Group Expo at our Spiritual Center yesterday. There were approximately fifteen who had displays of their businesses. I displayed my Medical Insurance as well as my holistic counseling skills/books.
A young woman approached me and expressed interest in having a paid session with me. She began to speak about her distress and was clearly overwhelmed by it. I listened to her and she began spontaneously to connect with, surrender, and release her feelings. I encouraged her with enthusiasm to continue with her emotional discharge as she continued to sob.
Her distress began to fall apart. It appeared that she was falling apart but based upon my experience; it was her distress that was falling apart. Too often, people are confused between a human being falling apart and their distress falling apart. Too often, one is embarrassed or fearful about being there for another human being while they are in deep distress and have a profound need for another human being just to be there for them in an empathetic and caring way. I encouraged her to stay connected to the feelings of fear and she did so. I handled my own feelings and had the courage to be there for her in a supportive manner.
We moved into another room where we had more privacy and she continued to connect with, surrender, and discharge her feelings of fear. I asked her to place her finger tips into the bottom of my spine. She embraced me and felt her finger tips at the base of my spine. Her finger tips at the base of my spine enabled her to ground herself as her loss of control intensified with profound sobbing and gradually her chronic distress began to dissipate. I continued to encourage her to feel her feelings again and again and again. She did so and her sobbing intensified more so.
I stayed firm in my ability to be there for her and she just continued to sob. Finally, it was time to return her to present time reality. I did so by asking her to describe items in the room, think of names beginning with different letters, and asked her questions about geography.
The result of her experience was positive. She claimed, "she felt better and her attention had improved". I'm glad I was able to be there for her spiritually.
Please take a moment to purchase my books, make a donation or read my website. I'm available for presentations in the wide world as well.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior.
We had a Business Networking Group Expo at our Spiritual Center yesterday. There were approximately fifteen who had displays of their businesses. I displayed my Medical Insurance as well as my holistic counseling skills/books.
A young woman approached me and expressed interest in having a paid session with me. She began to speak about her distress and was clearly overwhelmed by it. I listened to her and she began spontaneously to connect with, surrender, and release her feelings. I encouraged her with enthusiasm to continue with her emotional discharge as she continued to sob.
Her distress began to fall apart. It appeared that she was falling apart but based upon my experience; it was her distress that was falling apart. Too often, people are confused between a human being falling apart and their distress falling apart. Too often, one is embarrassed or fearful about being there for another human being while they are in deep distress and have a profound need for another human being just to be there for them in an empathetic and caring way. I encouraged her to stay connected to the feelings of fear and she did so. I handled my own feelings and had the courage to be there for her in a supportive manner.
We moved into another room where we had more privacy and she continued to connect with, surrender, and discharge her feelings of fear. I asked her to place her finger tips into the bottom of my spine. She embraced me and felt her finger tips at the base of my spine. Her finger tips at the base of my spine enabled her to ground herself as her loss of control intensified with profound sobbing and gradually her chronic distress began to dissipate. I continued to encourage her to feel her feelings again and again and again. She did so and her sobbing intensified more so.
I stayed firm in my ability to be there for her and she just continued to sob. Finally, it was time to return her to present time reality. I did so by asking her to describe items in the room, think of names beginning with different letters, and asked her questions about geography.
The result of her experience was positive. She claimed, "she felt better and her attention had improved". I'm glad I was able to be there for her spiritually.
Please take a moment to purchase my books, make a donation or read my website. I'm available for presentations in the wide world as well.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior.
Sunday, May 8, 2011
The Doubters, The Skeptics, Those Who Are In Denial
The Doubters, The Skeptics, Those Who Are In Denial
It's Fear! It's Fear! It's Fear! When we repress a hurtful and traumatizing event, physical, emotional, or one as a result of unfulfilled needs causing neediness often we become doubters, skeptics, disbelievers, and are in denial. Our denial impacts our connection with reality. Our "selves" are impacted. The self is impacted with emotional shadow or with darkness. Again, the reason often is fear. We deny our fear. It's then that we can be in denial of a part of ourselves.
Our hurt and trauma physical, emotional, and neediness reflects pain. Pain can be processed using different methods that resonate with ourselves.
The emotional degree, depth, and dimension of our processing depends upon the nature of the hurt and trauma.
We may become less trustful and may have less faith in ourselves and others as well. Our ability to trust becomes challenged. Our relationships are impacted by our suppressed feelings reflective of our feelings/emotions of our anger, sadness and fear. The hurt and trauma impacts our ability to think. Our flexible intelligence is negatively impacted. It becomes difficult to think through an issue. It just becomes difficult to think clearly.
We can have a belief, a value, a lifestyle that keeps us stuck as well. Our beliefs, our values, and our lifestyles, can reflect our denial, skepticism and doubt as well.
We can be doubters, skeptics, and be in denial because of a lack of information, education, or just ignorance as well.
Please check out and purchase the books on the side panel. They are available through Barnes and Noble, Borders, Amazon.com, Amazon Kindle. I'm available for holistic counseling, consulting, and presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
It's Fear! It's Fear! It's Fear! When we repress a hurtful and traumatizing event, physical, emotional, or one as a result of unfulfilled needs causing neediness often we become doubters, skeptics, disbelievers, and are in denial. Our denial impacts our connection with reality. Our "selves" are impacted. The self is impacted with emotional shadow or with darkness. Again, the reason often is fear. We deny our fear. It's then that we can be in denial of a part of ourselves.
Our hurt and trauma physical, emotional, and neediness reflects pain. Pain can be processed using different methods that resonate with ourselves.
The emotional degree, depth, and dimension of our processing depends upon the nature of the hurt and trauma.
We may become less trustful and may have less faith in ourselves and others as well. Our ability to trust becomes challenged. Our relationships are impacted by our suppressed feelings reflective of our feelings/emotions of our anger, sadness and fear. The hurt and trauma impacts our ability to think. Our flexible intelligence is negatively impacted. It becomes difficult to think through an issue. It just becomes difficult to think clearly.
We can have a belief, a value, a lifestyle that keeps us stuck as well. Our beliefs, our values, and our lifestyles, can reflect our denial, skepticism and doubt as well.
We can be doubters, skeptics, and be in denial because of a lack of information, education, or just ignorance as well.
Please check out and purchase the books on the side panel. They are available through Barnes and Noble, Borders, Amazon.com, Amazon Kindle. I'm available for holistic counseling, consulting, and presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
Services for You - Holistic Counseling, Consulting, Presentations.
Services for You – Holistic Counseling, Consulting, Presentations.
Is there anyone in the wide world who has issues? Everyone has issues otherwise one is in denial! I’m offering holistic counseling, consulting, and presentations for individuals/couples/groups. I have a background of over forty-three years effectively, efficiently, with discipline addressing issues that inhabit human beings from their self-realization. I employ a variety of techniques which include: affirmations, appreciations, peer counseling structure, the eleven manifestations of emotional release, the power of primal sound which facilitates access to deeper feelings reflective of frozen emotions, mirror work, dayad, inner child, present time reality, circular healing breath methodologies (connection, surrender, and release), traditional methods of active listening, interventions, empathy, focus on feelings reflective of emotions and fun! Please refer to my website, www.idaretoheal.com, blogs including www.idaretoheal.blogspot.com and contact me at 619-584-8093 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting 619-584-8093 end_of_the_skype_highlighting.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master’s of Psychology, Human Behavior
Is there anyone in the wide world who has issues? Everyone has issues otherwise one is in denial! I’m offering holistic counseling, consulting, and presentations for individuals/couples/groups. I have a background of over forty-three years effectively, efficiently, with discipline addressing issues that inhabit human beings from their self-realization. I employ a variety of techniques which include: affirmations, appreciations, peer counseling structure, the eleven manifestations of emotional release, the power of primal sound which facilitates access to deeper feelings reflective of frozen emotions, mirror work, dayad, inner child, present time reality, circular healing breath methodologies (connection, surrender, and release), traditional methods of active listening, interventions, empathy, focus on feelings reflective of emotions and fun! Please refer to my website, www.idaretoheal.com, blogs including www.idaretoheal.blogspot.com and contact me at 619-584-8093 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting 619-584-8093 end_of_the_skype_highlighting.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master’s of Psychology, Human Behavior
Saturday, April 30, 2011
Artificial Intelligence - A Blessing or A Nightmare?
Artificial Intelligence - A Blessing or A Nightmare?
It depends on your point of view. My point of view is that it has become more of a nightmare. I receive comments on my other blog.com and I cannot tell whether or not they are authentic or are comments that reflect artifical intelligence. If the comments are spam, the comments are artificial intelligence. However, it gets real confusing when the comments are not spam but are directed at my posts in the category of general commentories. It becomes very difficult to discern whether or not the comments come from a real human being or are artificial intelligence.
Artificial Intelligence reflects programs that are so like real human beings that it has become virtually impossible to reply to comments? It's truly quite confusing. I seldom receive replies from those comments who I submit replies too. In fact, I have never received replies from any of the comments that I have replied too?
In summary, I've decided not to submit replies to any comments.
Please donate to the blog.com and the blogspot.com. Purchase books on the side panels. I'm available for consulting, holistic counseling, and presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Administraion, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavor.
It depends on your point of view. My point of view is that it has become more of a nightmare. I receive comments on my other blog.com and I cannot tell whether or not they are authentic or are comments that reflect artifical intelligence. If the comments are spam, the comments are artificial intelligence. However, it gets real confusing when the comments are not spam but are directed at my posts in the category of general commentories. It becomes very difficult to discern whether or not the comments come from a real human being or are artificial intelligence.
Artificial Intelligence reflects programs that are so like real human beings that it has become virtually impossible to reply to comments? It's truly quite confusing. I seldom receive replies from those comments who I submit replies too. In fact, I have never received replies from any of the comments that I have replied too?
In summary, I've decided not to submit replies to any comments.
Please donate to the blog.com and the blogspot.com. Purchase books on the side panels. I'm available for consulting, holistic counseling, and presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Administraion, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavor.
Monday, April 25, 2011
Red Roses
Red Roses
He mailed Red Roses to his eighty-nine year old Mother. The Roses were placed on the table in the middle of her living space. She lived in the eastern United States on the twentieth floor with a view overlooking the Atlantic Ocean. Those who entered her apartment could not help but to focus their attention at the ocean by way of the closest window. If they were to focus on the interior of the living space it would only bring great distress to the visitor.
She grew up in the 1930's in the Great Depression. She was traumatized by her economic scarcity during this perid of time. Her beliefs and life style reflected the era. Her clothes, hair style, interior furniture, curtains, kitchen stove, bathroom all reflected a great depression. The roaches ran freely everywhere enjoying the freedom of movement. The maintenance employees just couldn't eradicate the creepy crawly creatures.
Her age, her charitable heart made her vulnerable to charities and to con-men. She was taken advantage of by many who fraudulent took monies from her. It was estimated that $5000.00 was taken from her. Her son visited one weekend and became very upset by his mothers circumstances and situation. He demanded that she change her phone number and that he take charge of paying her bills. He demanded that she sign a power of attorney. She concurred on all accounts. Regardless, the sadness that her circumstances brought him resulted in a reaction of anger.
Fortunately, her son was able to access, connect with, surrender, and release his grief at his Mother's circumstances and situation. Her son was able to take charge and help his Mom. The Red Roses in the simple vase provided hope and inspiration for change.
Please purchase the two books on the side panel or simple just donate to the site. The books are available through Barnes & Noble, Borders, Amazon, and Amazon Kindle. Mr. Vorensky is available for a presentation for fees and expenses. He is available for consulting and holistic counseling.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
He mailed Red Roses to his eighty-nine year old Mother. The Roses were placed on the table in the middle of her living space. She lived in the eastern United States on the twentieth floor with a view overlooking the Atlantic Ocean. Those who entered her apartment could not help but to focus their attention at the ocean by way of the closest window. If they were to focus on the interior of the living space it would only bring great distress to the visitor.
She grew up in the 1930's in the Great Depression. She was traumatized by her economic scarcity during this perid of time. Her beliefs and life style reflected the era. Her clothes, hair style, interior furniture, curtains, kitchen stove, bathroom all reflected a great depression. The roaches ran freely everywhere enjoying the freedom of movement. The maintenance employees just couldn't eradicate the creepy crawly creatures.
Her age, her charitable heart made her vulnerable to charities and to con-men. She was taken advantage of by many who fraudulent took monies from her. It was estimated that $5000.00 was taken from her. Her son visited one weekend and became very upset by his mothers circumstances and situation. He demanded that she change her phone number and that he take charge of paying her bills. He demanded that she sign a power of attorney. She concurred on all accounts. Regardless, the sadness that her circumstances brought him resulted in a reaction of anger.
Fortunately, her son was able to access, connect with, surrender, and release his grief at his Mother's circumstances and situation. Her son was able to take charge and help his Mom. The Red Roses in the simple vase provided hope and inspiration for change.
Please purchase the two books on the side panel or simple just donate to the site. The books are available through Barnes & Noble, Borders, Amazon, and Amazon Kindle. Mr. Vorensky is available for a presentation for fees and expenses. He is available for consulting and holistic counseling.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
Friday, April 22, 2011
The Solution or Resolution of Deeply Rooted Co-Dependency
The Solution or Resoulution of Deeply Rooted Co-Dependency.
The answer is it's a gradual process. The processing must be effective, efficient, and disciplined. The self-talk, the use of the journal to write your voluntary history usually is most certainly not enough.
If the trauma is chronic then the use of alternative methods for effective, efficient, and disciplined processing of the deeply rootled, imprinted, ingrained, hard wired distress is just not enough.
If and when one just thinks rationally about chronic traumatic emotional, physical, or distress reflective of unfulfilled chonic needs;then any rational human being cannot help but to be skeptical of the so-called accepted "norms". It's incomprehensiveable to me that anyone can honestly say that both self-talk, prayers, and the use of a journal is enough to resolve deeply rooted, hard wired, ingrained, imprinted chronic traumatic distress. If it does then I wouldn't bet on it.
I've used a myriad of accepted cultural methods and alternative methods to relieve the effects of my anxiety. Together they're working for me. It's a gradual process. I've needed both accepted culturally and alternative methods to even begin to resolve my co-dependency.
Why this is so? It's the self-deception of "denial". If and when a human being begins to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to address the deeply rooted feelings reflective of the range of emotions anger through rage, fear through terror, and sadness through grief, "denial" will be encountered by the indiviudual. It's here where persistence, peseverance, and patience plays a strategic roll. However, it's the spiritual power that one connects with during the processing of the feelings reflective of the emotions that plays the, the most important roll.
Be kind enough to donate to the blogspot site by your donation. There is a donation button under the side panel of the books. It will take you to paypal where you can donate. Otherwise, purchase the books. They're available from me on my website www.idaretoheal.com or just click under the side panel of each book. They are also available through Barnes & Noble, Borders, Amazon, Amazon Kindle and other book sellers. I'm available for presentations, consulting, an holistic counseling here in San Diego.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
The answer is it's a gradual process. The processing must be effective, efficient, and disciplined. The self-talk, the use of the journal to write your voluntary history usually is most certainly not enough.
If the trauma is chronic then the use of alternative methods for effective, efficient, and disciplined processing of the deeply rootled, imprinted, ingrained, hard wired distress is just not enough.
If and when one just thinks rationally about chronic traumatic emotional, physical, or distress reflective of unfulfilled chonic needs;then any rational human being cannot help but to be skeptical of the so-called accepted "norms". It's incomprehensiveable to me that anyone can honestly say that both self-talk, prayers, and the use of a journal is enough to resolve deeply rooted, hard wired, ingrained, imprinted chronic traumatic distress. If it does then I wouldn't bet on it.
I've used a myriad of accepted cultural methods and alternative methods to relieve the effects of my anxiety. Together they're working for me. It's a gradual process. I've needed both accepted culturally and alternative methods to even begin to resolve my co-dependency.
Why this is so? It's the self-deception of "denial". If and when a human being begins to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to address the deeply rooted feelings reflective of the range of emotions anger through rage, fear through terror, and sadness through grief, "denial" will be encountered by the indiviudual. It's here where persistence, peseverance, and patience plays a strategic roll. However, it's the spiritual power that one connects with during the processing of the feelings reflective of the emotions that plays the, the most important roll.
Be kind enough to donate to the blogspot site by your donation. There is a donation button under the side panel of the books. It will take you to paypal where you can donate. Otherwise, purchase the books. They're available from me on my website www.idaretoheal.com or just click under the side panel of each book. They are also available through Barnes & Noble, Borders, Amazon, Amazon Kindle and other book sellers. I'm available for presentations, consulting, an holistic counseling here in San Diego.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Memory and Emotion
Memory and Emotion
When we clear ourselves emotionally from stress,and distress our memory begins to improve! When our hurts and truamas (emotional, physical, and unfulfilled needs)begin to dissipate then our ability to remember becomes sharper and clearer. In fact, our memory becomes so clear; it can be said that our memory becomes crystal clear!
The use of "crystals" to facilitate clearing of ourselves from stress, and distress reflective of hurts and traumas can also be understand in its relationship to memory and well-being.
When we bring enough, enough oxygen into the cells of the body we also facilitate or reinvigorate our memories. The depth, the degree, and the dimension of oxygenating our cells of our body reinvigorates our ability to remember items quickly as well.
Learning to oxygenate our cells within our body reinvigorates the depth, the degree, and the dimension of our memories as well. The depth, the degree, and the dimension of our memories become clearer and have nuances of detail. The detail in detail of the memories reinvigorates our senses and positively impacts our memories. The clearing of our feelings reflective of our emotions reinvigorate the senses that impacts our remembering detail in detail of our memories.
It also triggers memories from past lives. The oxygen has the effect of facilitating time travel to past lives. The soul records each life we have lived and our infusing enough oxygen into the cells of our bodies facilitates memories from past lives. In essence, we experience time travel.
The memories of records reflective of our soul stores those memories. If and when we return to a place, a situation, a curcumstance it is then our senses become triggered, and our feelings reflective of our emotions remembers. In essence, somehow we know that we've been there before. I've personally experienced this in Barcelona, Spain, in Paris, France in Southern Sweden, in the State of Israel and in San Diego, California.
Please take a moment and explore the side panel of my books. Purchase the books. They can be acquired from my website, Barnes & Noble, Borders, Amazon.com, Amazon Kindle. I'm available for counseling, consulting, or presentations for fees and expenses. Please donate to the site as well. Donations can be made either on www.idaretoheal.blog.com or this one.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA, Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
When we clear ourselves emotionally from stress,and distress our memory begins to improve! When our hurts and truamas (emotional, physical, and unfulfilled needs)begin to dissipate then our ability to remember becomes sharper and clearer. In fact, our memory becomes so clear; it can be said that our memory becomes crystal clear!
The use of "crystals" to facilitate clearing of ourselves from stress, and distress reflective of hurts and traumas can also be understand in its relationship to memory and well-being.
When we bring enough, enough oxygen into the cells of the body we also facilitate or reinvigorate our memories. The depth, the degree, and the dimension of oxygenating our cells of our body reinvigorates our ability to remember items quickly as well.
Learning to oxygenate our cells within our body reinvigorates the depth, the degree, and the dimension of our memories as well. The depth, the degree, and the dimension of our memories become clearer and have nuances of detail. The detail in detail of the memories reinvigorates our senses and positively impacts our memories. The clearing of our feelings reflective of our emotions reinvigorate the senses that impacts our remembering detail in detail of our memories.
It also triggers memories from past lives. The oxygen has the effect of facilitating time travel to past lives. The soul records each life we have lived and our infusing enough oxygen into the cells of our bodies facilitates memories from past lives. In essence, we experience time travel.
The memories of records reflective of our soul stores those memories. If and when we return to a place, a situation, a curcumstance it is then our senses become triggered, and our feelings reflective of our emotions remembers. In essence, somehow we know that we've been there before. I've personally experienced this in Barcelona, Spain, in Paris, France in Southern Sweden, in the State of Israel and in San Diego, California.
Please take a moment and explore the side panel of my books. Purchase the books. They can be acquired from my website, Barnes & Noble, Borders, Amazon.com, Amazon Kindle. I'm available for counseling, consulting, or presentations for fees and expenses. Please donate to the site as well. Donations can be made either on www.idaretoheal.blog.com or this one.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA, Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
Thursday, April 14, 2011
The Underlining Horror and the Result that is Anxiety
The Underlining Horroor and the Result that is Anxiety
The resolution of of post traumatic stress disorder.
There is a horror that is triggered with Anxiety Disorder. Underlining the anxiety is always depth and layer or layers of from fear through terror. When one removes the feelings from fear through terror by way of a variey of methods one experiences a reduction in the anxiety. It's experiencing and processing the layers of feelings from fear through terror where the deep healing occurs.
The fog of fear terror must first be addressed. It can be addressd by way of the manifestations of emotional release. It's in the use of healing breath methods that the fog of fear through terror can be resolved. The circular breath process of connection, surrender, and release removes feelings from fear through terror underlying the constant anxiety. It's then that one can address the layers of ingrained, imprinted, hard wired, compulsive pattern of the anxiety resulting in post distress disorder.
The underlining pattern of anxiety has its depth, degree, and dimensions of fear through terror. It's here that the primal sound can be quite useful. The primal sound facilitates access to the profound feelings of fear through terror. It's here where healing truly begins. The resolution of the feelings from fear through terror layer by layer comprised of the emotional trauma (peeling the onion skins) results in authentic healing.
In summary the use of connected healing breath is instrumental in resolving feelings reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror. It's then the primal sound that facilitates access to the layers of imprinted, ingrained, hard wired compulsive layers of these feelings that are the anchoring and foundation of the anxiety.
Ongoing anxiety disorder is common. The resolution of anxiety disorder requires patience processing in depth of the feelings reflective of the issue of PTSD.
Please donate to the blog by clicking the button. The books are now available on kindle and the blogs will be available as well. I'm available for presentations for a fee and expenses. Please purchase the books located on the side panels.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Busines Admin., M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
The resolution of of post traumatic stress disorder.
There is a horror that is triggered with Anxiety Disorder. Underlining the anxiety is always depth and layer or layers of from fear through terror. When one removes the feelings from fear through terror by way of a variey of methods one experiences a reduction in the anxiety. It's experiencing and processing the layers of feelings from fear through terror where the deep healing occurs.
The fog of fear terror must first be addressed. It can be addressd by way of the manifestations of emotional release. It's in the use of healing breath methods that the fog of fear through terror can be resolved. The circular breath process of connection, surrender, and release removes feelings from fear through terror underlying the constant anxiety. It's then that one can address the layers of ingrained, imprinted, hard wired, compulsive pattern of the anxiety resulting in post distress disorder.
The underlining pattern of anxiety has its depth, degree, and dimensions of fear through terror. It's here that the primal sound can be quite useful. The primal sound facilitates access to the profound feelings of fear through terror. It's here where healing truly begins. The resolution of the feelings from fear through terror layer by layer comprised of the emotional trauma (peeling the onion skins) results in authentic healing.
In summary the use of connected healing breath is instrumental in resolving feelings reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror. It's then the primal sound that facilitates access to the layers of imprinted, ingrained, hard wired compulsive layers of these feelings that are the anchoring and foundation of the anxiety.
Ongoing anxiety disorder is common. The resolution of anxiety disorder requires patience processing in depth of the feelings reflective of the issue of PTSD.
Please donate to the blog by clicking the button. The books are now available on kindle and the blogs will be available as well. I'm available for presentations for a fee and expenses. Please purchase the books located on the side panels.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Busines Admin., M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Sunday, April 10, 2011
Assumptions, Hypothetical Cases, Conclusions, Control
Assumptions, Hypothetical Cases, Conclusions, Control
The four components of co-dependence are patterns of control of others, compliance to others (a pattern of fixing, pleasing others as it reflects situations/circumstances, the big component of being a being in denial of ones' patterns and low self-esteem.
Sometimes our patterns or insecurities cause us to make judgments which result in our needs reflective of neediness to control situations, people, or cirucumstances. Sometimes we strive for understanding in order to control a set of circumstances or a situation. We can then make assumptions, create hypothetical cases, formulate conclusions in order to control people, circumstances, or situations. In reality we are creating hypothetical cases that reinforce our need to reflect of our neediness to experience security; usually emotional security.
It's important for us to become aware of and alert to making erroneous judgments and creating hypothetical cases because of a need or neediness to arrive at a solution or resolution of a situation because of our need to control.
There are times when we are not alert to or aware of our responses and reactions that cause us to make assumptions, judgments, create hypothetical cases, and arrive at conclusions. The reason could be our fears that result in our patterns. Often, we've been hurt or traumatized early on in our childhoods.
If we are willing to do inner child work regardless of the chosen process; we can recognize, begin to become aware of and awaken to consciousness our reasons for our behaviors. It's incumbent upon us to do the personal growth work and process our feelings reflective of our emotions and effectively, efficiently, with discipline again, and again, and again to address our patterns of co-dependencies.
I write about inner child work in my books. Please take a moment to check them out on the side panel, purchase many of them. The books are now available on Kindle. I'm available for presentations, for fees and expenses and available for spiritual counseling/consulting work here in San Diego or by phone at 619-584-8093. It's also possible to click the "donate" button and send a contribution to Life's Breath Publications and Ministries to support my writing that empowers others through my loving insights. Please check out the website as well.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
The four components of co-dependence are patterns of control of others, compliance to others (a pattern of fixing, pleasing others as it reflects situations/circumstances, the big component of being a being in denial of ones' patterns and low self-esteem.
Sometimes our patterns or insecurities cause us to make judgments which result in our needs reflective of neediness to control situations, people, or cirucumstances. Sometimes we strive for understanding in order to control a set of circumstances or a situation. We can then make assumptions, create hypothetical cases, formulate conclusions in order to control people, circumstances, or situations. In reality we are creating hypothetical cases that reinforce our need to reflect of our neediness to experience security; usually emotional security.
It's important for us to become aware of and alert to making erroneous judgments and creating hypothetical cases because of a need or neediness to arrive at a solution or resolution of a situation because of our need to control.
There are times when we are not alert to or aware of our responses and reactions that cause us to make assumptions, judgments, create hypothetical cases, and arrive at conclusions. The reason could be our fears that result in our patterns. Often, we've been hurt or traumatized early on in our childhoods.
If we are willing to do inner child work regardless of the chosen process; we can recognize, begin to become aware of and awaken to consciousness our reasons for our behaviors. It's incumbent upon us to do the personal growth work and process our feelings reflective of our emotions and effectively, efficiently, with discipline again, and again, and again to address our patterns of co-dependencies.
I write about inner child work in my books. Please take a moment to check them out on the side panel, purchase many of them. The books are now available on Kindle. I'm available for presentations, for fees and expenses and available for spiritual counseling/consulting work here in San Diego or by phone at 619-584-8093. It's also possible to click the "donate" button and send a contribution to Life's Breath Publications and Ministries to support my writing that empowers others through my loving insights. Please check out the website as well.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Sensations!
Sensations!
The sensations of taste, smell, hearing, seeing, and touch allow us to experience instantaneous impulses of feelings reflective of emotions. The five sensations are the gates to our feelngs reflective of our emotions.
Feelings are very different from sensations. There are pleasant and unpleasant sensations. For example, one can experience feelings of love and a sensation of a loving touch. The sensation of a loving touch can trigger feelings of love for the person who reached out for or to the other.
The sensation from a loving, nurturing, warm touch usually is desirable. Of course, it can be undesirable if and when the nurturing touch triggers feelings reflective of the dark emotions, anger, fear, sad. These emotions can reflect issues; trust issues abandonment, betrayal, and separation.
Here is another example of the difference between sensation and feelings. The feelings of love can be communicated verbally or through touch. The "feelings" reflective of love just seem to go deeper than a sensation. An analogy is the pebble or stone thrown in the lake. The pebble or stone as it enters the lake is the sensation and the the circular waves of water are the feelings that reflect the sensation of the pebble or stone entering the lake.
One feels nurtured, embraced warmly by a hug, the eye contact and body language of the individual expressing love is "felt" by the receiver maybe in a secure, and safe way. The sensation of the hug results of waves of feelings through the body.
One can also experience feelings of fear, a range of emotion from fear through terror, and a sensation of intimidation. Here again, the intimidation can be described as the stone and the result are feelings of fear that radiate through the body.
It can work in the opposite way. A sense of intimidation can trigger feelings of fear and the range of emotion from fear through terror as well
The sensations reflectve of emotions can be essential keys to opening ourselves to serenity!
Please take a moment to check out my books on the side panel. They are treasures and available through Barnes and Noble my website, www.idaretoheal.com, and Borders Book Stores. They will soon be available to read on kindle! I'm available for counseling, phone consulting, presentations for fees and expenses. If you enjoy my writing consider donating to the blogs through the donate or pay pal buttons on the blogs.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior, Psychology
The sensations of taste, smell, hearing, seeing, and touch allow us to experience instantaneous impulses of feelings reflective of emotions. The five sensations are the gates to our feelngs reflective of our emotions.
Feelings are very different from sensations. There are pleasant and unpleasant sensations. For example, one can experience feelings of love and a sensation of a loving touch. The sensation of a loving touch can trigger feelings of love for the person who reached out for or to the other.
The sensation from a loving, nurturing, warm touch usually is desirable. Of course, it can be undesirable if and when the nurturing touch triggers feelings reflective of the dark emotions, anger, fear, sad. These emotions can reflect issues; trust issues abandonment, betrayal, and separation.
Here is another example of the difference between sensation and feelings. The feelings of love can be communicated verbally or through touch. The "feelings" reflective of love just seem to go deeper than a sensation. An analogy is the pebble or stone thrown in the lake. The pebble or stone as it enters the lake is the sensation and the the circular waves of water are the feelings that reflect the sensation of the pebble or stone entering the lake.
One feels nurtured, embraced warmly by a hug, the eye contact and body language of the individual expressing love is "felt" by the receiver maybe in a secure, and safe way. The sensation of the hug results of waves of feelings through the body.
One can also experience feelings of fear, a range of emotion from fear through terror, and a sensation of intimidation. Here again, the intimidation can be described as the stone and the result are feelings of fear that radiate through the body.
It can work in the opposite way. A sense of intimidation can trigger feelings of fear and the range of emotion from fear through terror as well
The sensations reflectve of emotions can be essential keys to opening ourselves to serenity!
Please take a moment to check out my books on the side panel. They are treasures and available through Barnes and Noble my website, www.idaretoheal.com, and Borders Book Stores. They will soon be available to read on kindle! I'm available for counseling, phone consulting, presentations for fees and expenses. If you enjoy my writing consider donating to the blogs through the donate or pay pal buttons on the blogs.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior, Psychology
Friday, March 18, 2011
Intimate Relationships - The Right Fit
Intimate Relationships - The Right Fit
Do you have the right fit in your intimate relationship? Do you complement each other or do you comply, fix, control, please, each other? If and when you are most of the time complying, fixing, controlling, and pleasing your significant other; that's co-dependency.
When you communicate with each other is it reactive or is your communication responsive? Are you somewhat or highly co-dependent in your relationship. Are you both as one with yourselves as possible and communicate with each other for the most part as whole human beings?
If your communication is reactive then your communication comes from suppressed feelings, hurt, unfulfilled needs, and traumatized feelings reflective of emotions that have taken the form of unaware unhealthy behavior patterns that result in reactions to each other. The reactions are unhealthy and mostly likely cause conflict and unhappiness.
Many people just stay in these relationships usually because of their fear which prevents them from leaving them. There are few individuals in these reactive relationships that decide to reach out and seek clarity as to why they react to each other and not respond to each other. Usually, the reason is suppressed feelings of the emotion of fear.
There are several reasons for reactive relationships. For one, participants have fallen into the pattern of reflecting each others neediness with the hope of filling their unfulfilled needs. For two, the pattern of reaction has become common place, compulsive, imprinted, ingrained, and hard wired. The participants are just use to reacting to each other instead of recognizing the need to go within and address their unfulfilled needs. Also, people are afraid of becoming lonely or just experiencing solitud and the pain that bubbles up from its experience. They would rather stay in an unhealthy releationship.
In any healthy relationship the partners recognize, acknowledge the existence of issues. Partners learn about their own issues. They stay alert, and aware of their own issues and find ways to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to process them again, again, again, and again. If and when issues are to be resolved; the feelings reflective of the emotions underlying the issues most be processed with zest and enthusiasm!
Unfortuntely, denial is just too common. It seems to be the rule and common to the human experience. Humankind compensates for reality by small talk, by displacing their feelings reflective of their aunthentic emotions with inauthentic behaviors. It's just easier to stay unreal instead of addressing feelings reflective of emotions that reflect issues.
What is your personality dynamic with yourself and in your relationship with others. Do you come from a loving space of kindness in setting boundaries for yourself and other? Are you consistent in your processing your stess and distress so that you stay connected to your higher power? These are just some questions for you to ponder.
Please check out and purchase my books on the side panel. I'm available for presentations, for fees, and expenses or counseling over the phone at 619-584-8093.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters in Psychology, Human Behavior.
Do you have the right fit in your intimate relationship? Do you complement each other or do you comply, fix, control, please, each other? If and when you are most of the time complying, fixing, controlling, and pleasing your significant other; that's co-dependency.
When you communicate with each other is it reactive or is your communication responsive? Are you somewhat or highly co-dependent in your relationship. Are you both as one with yourselves as possible and communicate with each other for the most part as whole human beings?
If your communication is reactive then your communication comes from suppressed feelings, hurt, unfulfilled needs, and traumatized feelings reflective of emotions that have taken the form of unaware unhealthy behavior patterns that result in reactions to each other. The reactions are unhealthy and mostly likely cause conflict and unhappiness.
Many people just stay in these relationships usually because of their fear which prevents them from leaving them. There are few individuals in these reactive relationships that decide to reach out and seek clarity as to why they react to each other and not respond to each other. Usually, the reason is suppressed feelings of the emotion of fear.
There are several reasons for reactive relationships. For one, participants have fallen into the pattern of reflecting each others neediness with the hope of filling their unfulfilled needs. For two, the pattern of reaction has become common place, compulsive, imprinted, ingrained, and hard wired. The participants are just use to reacting to each other instead of recognizing the need to go within and address their unfulfilled needs. Also, people are afraid of becoming lonely or just experiencing solitud and the pain that bubbles up from its experience. They would rather stay in an unhealthy releationship.
In any healthy relationship the partners recognize, acknowledge the existence of issues. Partners learn about their own issues. They stay alert, and aware of their own issues and find ways to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to process them again, again, again, and again. If and when issues are to be resolved; the feelings reflective of the emotions underlying the issues most be processed with zest and enthusiasm!
Unfortuntely, denial is just too common. It seems to be the rule and common to the human experience. Humankind compensates for reality by small talk, by displacing their feelings reflective of their aunthentic emotions with inauthentic behaviors. It's just easier to stay unreal instead of addressing feelings reflective of emotions that reflect issues.
What is your personality dynamic with yourself and in your relationship with others. Do you come from a loving space of kindness in setting boundaries for yourself and other? Are you consistent in your processing your stess and distress so that you stay connected to your higher power? These are just some questions for you to ponder.
Please check out and purchase my books on the side panel. I'm available for presentations, for fees, and expenses or counseling over the phone at 619-584-8093.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters in Psychology, Human Behavior.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Unwarranted Guilt - It's Time to Set Boundaries
Unwarranted Guilt - It's Time to Set Boundaries
Have you ever felt guilty? There are many reasons one experiences guilt. Guilt hurts. Guilt is more of a sensation than it is a feeling. Though, one can very well have feelings of guilt.
There are many reasons why an individual experiences guilt. Perhaps you just couldn't be there for another person emotionally. Perhaps you were "made" to feel guilty by another person. Of course, one can buy into feeling guilt through intimidation. If you were "made" to feel guilty then perhaps you bought into another persons judgement of you? The above examples are unwarranted guilt and require and individual to set cognitive, spiritual, and emotional boundaries for themselves.
It's important for individuals to realize when they internalize unwarranted guilt. If and when a person does so it's co-dependence. They need to realize that they must set boundaries in their thinking and therefore their emotions so that they do not internalize the guilt and experience self-invalidation and lower self-esteem. It can be quite a challenge expecially with your family of origin. Your indigenous family may have laid guilt upon and in you.
There are certain important co-dependent themes that are triggered. A person needs to realize that only he/she could empower themselves to take charge of their own lives. He/She could make the necessary changes that would impact their own lives. For example, becoming alert to and aware of when to set boundaries for themselves in their thinking, and in their feeling.
It becomes emotionally difficult to set boundaries with someone who you love. It becomes difficult to watch someone you love continually hurt themselves. It becomes difficult to watch them destroy themselves. The guilt and the helplessness becomes overwhelming when you don't realize that you are "powerless over others behaviors".
It's at these times it becomes urgent to set firm boundaries for oneself, firm emotional boundaries and to use self talk, to firmly say stop to oneself. We can also use our connection to our higher power to set boundaries for ourselves.
I need to stay concious of my thoughts regarding caring about others. I need to say "stop" to myself in my thinking if and when I begin to have too many thoughts regarding my caring. When I stay conscious of my thoughts I can eliminate my emotional involvement. I validate myself. I think well of myself. This is healthy and common sense.
Please check out and purchase my books on the side panels. I'm available for counseling and consulting worldwide. I'm also available for presentation. My contact information is on my website at www.idaretoheal.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Have you ever felt guilty? There are many reasons one experiences guilt. Guilt hurts. Guilt is more of a sensation than it is a feeling. Though, one can very well have feelings of guilt.
There are many reasons why an individual experiences guilt. Perhaps you just couldn't be there for another person emotionally. Perhaps you were "made" to feel guilty by another person. Of course, one can buy into feeling guilt through intimidation. If you were "made" to feel guilty then perhaps you bought into another persons judgement of you? The above examples are unwarranted guilt and require and individual to set cognitive, spiritual, and emotional boundaries for themselves.
It's important for individuals to realize when they internalize unwarranted guilt. If and when a person does so it's co-dependence. They need to realize that they must set boundaries in their thinking and therefore their emotions so that they do not internalize the guilt and experience self-invalidation and lower self-esteem. It can be quite a challenge expecially with your family of origin. Your indigenous family may have laid guilt upon and in you.
There are certain important co-dependent themes that are triggered. A person needs to realize that only he/she could empower themselves to take charge of their own lives. He/She could make the necessary changes that would impact their own lives. For example, becoming alert to and aware of when to set boundaries for themselves in their thinking, and in their feeling.
It becomes emotionally difficult to set boundaries with someone who you love. It becomes difficult to watch someone you love continually hurt themselves. It becomes difficult to watch them destroy themselves. The guilt and the helplessness becomes overwhelming when you don't realize that you are "powerless over others behaviors".
It's at these times it becomes urgent to set firm boundaries for oneself, firm emotional boundaries and to use self talk, to firmly say stop to oneself. We can also use our connection to our higher power to set boundaries for ourselves.
I need to stay concious of my thoughts regarding caring about others. I need to say "stop" to myself in my thinking if and when I begin to have too many thoughts regarding my caring. When I stay conscious of my thoughts I can eliminate my emotional involvement. I validate myself. I think well of myself. This is healthy and common sense.
Please check out and purchase my books on the side panels. I'm available for counseling and consulting worldwide. I'm also available for presentation. My contact information is on my website at www.idaretoheal.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Sunday, February 27, 2011
The Spiritual Power of Surrender
The Spiritual Power of Surrender
Often, we are reluctant to surrender to and of our so-called vulnerabilities. We are often reluctant to show so-called "weaknesses". We are afraid to share our hurts and traumas. We don't express our flaws. We just don't normally do it because we become vulnerable to others judgements, others critical comments, vulnerable to our own internalized pain. Often, we stay in denial. We keep the suppressed feelings stored within ourselves. Well, it's just not healthy to do so.
If and when we reveal our hurts, our traumas, our so-called defects of character; if and when we learn or become willing to surrender our defenses and then surrender our pain; we make it possible for ourselves to connect with the empowerment of a higher power.
When we surrender our defenses and connect with the feelings reflective of emotions and let go of or painful feelings; we make it possible for ourselves to connect with the empowerment of our higher power. We become emotionally and spiritually stronger. We grow up and our maturity of self occurs.
Please take a moment and check out my books on the side panel. I'm sure you'll find an inspirational account of my own personal growth. I wrote the books to inspire others to begin their personal journeys.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Often, we are reluctant to surrender to and of our so-called vulnerabilities. We are often reluctant to show so-called "weaknesses". We are afraid to share our hurts and traumas. We don't express our flaws. We just don't normally do it because we become vulnerable to others judgements, others critical comments, vulnerable to our own internalized pain. Often, we stay in denial. We keep the suppressed feelings stored within ourselves. Well, it's just not healthy to do so.
If and when we reveal our hurts, our traumas, our so-called defects of character; if and when we learn or become willing to surrender our defenses and then surrender our pain; we make it possible for ourselves to connect with the empowerment of a higher power.
When we surrender our defenses and connect with the feelings reflective of emotions and let go of or painful feelings; we make it possible for ourselves to connect with the empowerment of our higher power. We become emotionally and spiritually stronger. We grow up and our maturity of self occurs.
Please take a moment and check out my books on the side panel. I'm sure you'll find an inspirational account of my own personal growth. I wrote the books to inspire others to begin their personal journeys.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Thursday, February 24, 2011
The Embedded Spirituality of Spirit
The Embedded Spirituality of Spirit
I have pain in my lower back. Perhaps it's from the connection with my replaced knee joint or perhaps its from the connection with my arthritic right hip. They phoned today from the orthopedic clinic asking me to return the phone call regarding an appointment. They had received the documentation from the X-ray indicating an arthritic condition requiring a consultation with a orthopedic surgeon. I was happy to be consulting with a surgeon of my choice. However, the appointment is over three months from now. I'll phone each week and ask whether or not a cancellation had occurred and whether or not an appointment would be possible.
I attended a spiritual support ground this evening after work and in my sharing I reconnected with a spiritual power within me. I shared about the physical pain and how my connection with my higher power has helped me. I can often sense how after an opening invocation "prayer", said in a communal way; I can actually sense the overwhelming presence of a spiritual power in the room. I shared how several of my joints had already been replaced and shared as well an affirmation how "My body is made of stainless steel".
I felt the spiritual connection yet stronger in my body. I felt it embedding deeper in the cells of my body. I felt the strength of spirit in me and the transcendence and transformation of the pain into stainless steel. It was yet another spiritual awakening and connection to my spiritual power.
Please check out my two books on the side panel. I'll be doing my "Animated Laughter with Feelings" class Sunday March 6th at the First Spiritual Church San Diego locatied at 3777 forty-second street. All are welcomed to participate.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior.
I have pain in my lower back. Perhaps it's from the connection with my replaced knee joint or perhaps its from the connection with my arthritic right hip. They phoned today from the orthopedic clinic asking me to return the phone call regarding an appointment. They had received the documentation from the X-ray indicating an arthritic condition requiring a consultation with a orthopedic surgeon. I was happy to be consulting with a surgeon of my choice. However, the appointment is over three months from now. I'll phone each week and ask whether or not a cancellation had occurred and whether or not an appointment would be possible.
I attended a spiritual support ground this evening after work and in my sharing I reconnected with a spiritual power within me. I shared about the physical pain and how my connection with my higher power has helped me. I can often sense how after an opening invocation "prayer", said in a communal way; I can actually sense the overwhelming presence of a spiritual power in the room. I shared how several of my joints had already been replaced and shared as well an affirmation how "My body is made of stainless steel".
I felt the spiritual connection yet stronger in my body. I felt it embedding deeper in the cells of my body. I felt the strength of spirit in me and the transcendence and transformation of the pain into stainless steel. It was yet another spiritual awakening and connection to my spiritual power.
Please check out my two books on the side panel. I'll be doing my "Animated Laughter with Feelings" class Sunday March 6th at the First Spiritual Church San Diego locatied at 3777 forty-second street. All are welcomed to participate.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior.
Tuesday, February 22, 2011
I Don't Buy Into Paralyzing Terror!
I Don't Buy Into Paralyzing Terror!
The Secretary stated that I needed to schedule an appointment with a orthopedic surgeon who specializes in both knee and hip. It's odd how unawarely I became paralyzed by terror at her words. I was not fully aware emotionally of the ramifications of of what the Secretary had said. At first, I thought, wow a clinic that knows their stuff. At first, I felt relieved but slowly during the day was paraylzed by the thought of having a revision of my already replaced right knee joint and in addition a replacement of a right hip joint. After all, the pain experience was huge with the last knee replacement. The thought of the pain was enough to paralyze me into sheer terror. Well, I most certainly felt it! However, I had gotten through it all!
My solutions was primal sound. I used the breath to go deep and again, again, and again to go into, to access, to connect with, to then go into, the feelings and then to choose to surrender the emotion, to release it, to relinquish it, to let it go, to discharge it, the fear, to the great spirit. The result was and is now faith.
If I was to once again to descend into the depths of paralyzing terror my answer and action regarding the emotion would be the same. I have but present time and choose always to remain in emotional freedom from paralyzing emotional terror.
Please check out my books on the side panel. The books offer many choices for letting go. I'm available for presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behaior.
The Secretary stated that I needed to schedule an appointment with a orthopedic surgeon who specializes in both knee and hip. It's odd how unawarely I became paralyzed by terror at her words. I was not fully aware emotionally of the ramifications of of what the Secretary had said. At first, I thought, wow a clinic that knows their stuff. At first, I felt relieved but slowly during the day was paraylzed by the thought of having a revision of my already replaced right knee joint and in addition a replacement of a right hip joint. After all, the pain experience was huge with the last knee replacement. The thought of the pain was enough to paralyze me into sheer terror. Well, I most certainly felt it! However, I had gotten through it all!
My solutions was primal sound. I used the breath to go deep and again, again, and again to go into, to access, to connect with, to then go into, the feelings and then to choose to surrender the emotion, to release it, to relinquish it, to let it go, to discharge it, the fear, to the great spirit. The result was and is now faith.
If I was to once again to descend into the depths of paralyzing terror my answer and action regarding the emotion would be the same. I have but present time and choose always to remain in emotional freedom from paralyzing emotional terror.
Please check out my books on the side panel. The books offer many choices for letting go. I'm available for presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behaior.
Monday, February 21, 2011
Caffea Arabica
Caffea Arabica
She developed a"Garden for Health" in a famous park in San Diego, California. It was her contribution to humankind here on earth. She loved kids and was committed to their education. Her labors as a substitute teacher were self-sacrificing. In fact, self-sacrificing was a common component to her personality. I told her that it was an unhealthy occupation and encouraged her to end the torture. However, her mortgage needed to be paid and she persevered as a substitute teacher. She stayed in denial of its ill effects upon her health.
We had often hugged. The embrace was a sharing of love by two friends. The love had always been a friendship, nothing more. She was content with it.
It was over a year ago that we were together at the Los Angeles Times Festival of the books and I noticed in her words that she was losing touch with reality. I said nothing to her about it. My friend was ill and I knew it. I didn't think she was aware of her illness. She didn't know that cancer had begun its death march.
It was this time less than a year ago that I visited her in the hospital and brought her chocolate and flowers. I gave her a hug. I loved her. The illness was consuming her. It was the last time I saw her alive. It was but a short time after my visit that she passed.
I'm sad now as I write, and with sadness I was at her "garden" yesterday. I stood by her "Caffea Arabica" where her ashes had been laid. She had donated "Caffea Arabica" to the garden. I reached out and my arms formed an embrace and goose bumps streamed through my skin as I felt, as I felt her spirit embracing me. The energy was uncanny, electric, warm, and loving. The synchronicity of the experience was spiritual in nature, and her spirit was very present. I felt fear, and love because of the experience. However, I surrendered, let go of, relinquished the fear and now I'm left with the sadness of "Caffea Arabica".
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
She developed a"Garden for Health" in a famous park in San Diego, California. It was her contribution to humankind here on earth. She loved kids and was committed to their education. Her labors as a substitute teacher were self-sacrificing. In fact, self-sacrificing was a common component to her personality. I told her that it was an unhealthy occupation and encouraged her to end the torture. However, her mortgage needed to be paid and she persevered as a substitute teacher. She stayed in denial of its ill effects upon her health.
We had often hugged. The embrace was a sharing of love by two friends. The love had always been a friendship, nothing more. She was content with it.
It was over a year ago that we were together at the Los Angeles Times Festival of the books and I noticed in her words that she was losing touch with reality. I said nothing to her about it. My friend was ill and I knew it. I didn't think she was aware of her illness. She didn't know that cancer had begun its death march.
It was this time less than a year ago that I visited her in the hospital and brought her chocolate and flowers. I gave her a hug. I loved her. The illness was consuming her. It was the last time I saw her alive. It was but a short time after my visit that she passed.
I'm sad now as I write, and with sadness I was at her "garden" yesterday. I stood by her "Caffea Arabica" where her ashes had been laid. She had donated "Caffea Arabica" to the garden. I reached out and my arms formed an embrace and goose bumps streamed through my skin as I felt, as I felt her spirit embracing me. The energy was uncanny, electric, warm, and loving. The synchronicity of the experience was spiritual in nature, and her spirit was very present. I felt fear, and love because of the experience. However, I surrendered, let go of, relinquished the fear and now I'm left with the sadness of "Caffea Arabica".
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
March 6th 2011, Sunday, "Animated Laughter with Feelings" Class
I will be having an "Animated Laughter with Feelings" Class on March 6th 2011, Sunday. The presentation and class will be held at the First Spiritualist Church located at 3777 Forty-Second Street, San Diego, CA 92105. The presentation will be held in the the church building at 11:00 a.m. and the class will be held at 1:15 p.m. in the social hall next to the church. Please bring a mat or blanket. There is a $20.00 fee for participants. Please be willing to sign a release of liability as well. The theory can be read on the May 24th 2010 post on this blog.
Please purchase the books on the right side panel which describes many healing methods. I'm available for counseling others here in San Diego. Please contact me by phone through www.idaretoheal.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psycholgoy, Human Behavior.
Please purchase the books on the right side panel which describes many healing methods. I'm available for counseling others here in San Diego. Please contact me by phone through www.idaretoheal.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psycholgoy, Human Behavior.
Saturday, February 19, 2011
Authenticity
Authenticity
It's refreshing if and when an individual expresses their authenticity. If and when a person expresses themselves in clear word and sound. Often, we are significantly more interested in listening to what is being said. What is being said has more meaning, has tone, has emotional depth, degree, and dimension.
Of course, this is not always the case. It depends upon whether or not we have an interest in the subject? Often, a child develops an authentic tone in their development. It's wonderful to listen to a childs voice, a childs sound, a childs expressing their life in refreshing sound, body language, and emotions. After all, a child is closest to their emotions than any adult.
Children are the least encumbered by hurt and trauma so they are more apt to be most authentic in expressing themselves in the wide world. Just listen to a child or just watch their body language. Physically and emotionally they are the most connected of human beings.
Have you ever seen a child who has first learned to walk. Just watch as they take joy in walking or take even greater joy and enthussiasm in their first run! The expressed satisfaction is overwhelming for them and truly overwhelming for the observer. The observer can experience great joy in their zest and life's enthusiasm. How truly sweet, sweet it is to watch someone overflowing with joy. Don't you think!
My two books, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love", and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power", include many methods which support and help humankind to release inhibitions that prevent us from experiencing true joy in our lives. Please purchase them. I'm available for counseling in San Diego on co-dependency issues and am happy to make presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
It's refreshing if and when an individual expresses their authenticity. If and when a person expresses themselves in clear word and sound. Often, we are significantly more interested in listening to what is being said. What is being said has more meaning, has tone, has emotional depth, degree, and dimension.
Of course, this is not always the case. It depends upon whether or not we have an interest in the subject? Often, a child develops an authentic tone in their development. It's wonderful to listen to a childs voice, a childs sound, a childs expressing their life in refreshing sound, body language, and emotions. After all, a child is closest to their emotions than any adult.
Children are the least encumbered by hurt and trauma so they are more apt to be most authentic in expressing themselves in the wide world. Just listen to a child or just watch their body language. Physically and emotionally they are the most connected of human beings.
Have you ever seen a child who has first learned to walk. Just watch as they take joy in walking or take even greater joy and enthussiasm in their first run! The expressed satisfaction is overwhelming for them and truly overwhelming for the observer. The observer can experience great joy in their zest and life's enthusiasm. How truly sweet, sweet it is to watch someone overflowing with joy. Don't you think!
My two books, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love", and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power", include many methods which support and help humankind to release inhibitions that prevent us from experiencing true joy in our lives. Please purchase them. I'm available for counseling in San Diego on co-dependency issues and am happy to make presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
The Emotional and Spiritual Power of Anonymity
The Emotional and Spiritual Power of Anonymity
If you are familiar with the twelve step process then you are aware of both the principles and the traditions. There are many twelve step groups Co-dependency, Alcoholics, Adult, Narcotics, Sexual, Gambles, Addicts Anonymous.
Tradition 12 speaks to the significance, and the spiritual power of anonymity. When we meet in a 12 step support group we don't hand out business cards or as a principle speak about our professions.
This prevents us from looking up to personalities as authorities who will enhance our self-esteem. It's encumbent upon the individual themselves to enhance their own self-esteem and not feed off the self-esteem of others.
It also prevents us from judging others and judging ourselves. Internalization of self-invalidating judgements is defeating to self-esteem and manifests into a pattern of co-dependence.
By successfully working the twelve step process and traditions; it facilitates transcendence of internalized issues reflective of the pain. In doing so, it can result in the connection with a higher power.
Please purchase "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love" and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power" where I write about go to methods that one can use to release, relinquish, let go of, discharge, and surrender feelings reflective of emotions so that one can connect with a higher power. The books are sold by order through Barnes and Noble or on-line at my website.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior.
If you are familiar with the twelve step process then you are aware of both the principles and the traditions. There are many twelve step groups Co-dependency, Alcoholics, Adult, Narcotics, Sexual, Gambles, Addicts Anonymous.
Tradition 12 speaks to the significance, and the spiritual power of anonymity. When we meet in a 12 step support group we don't hand out business cards or as a principle speak about our professions.
This prevents us from looking up to personalities as authorities who will enhance our self-esteem. It's encumbent upon the individual themselves to enhance their own self-esteem and not feed off the self-esteem of others.
It also prevents us from judging others and judging ourselves. Internalization of self-invalidating judgements is defeating to self-esteem and manifests into a pattern of co-dependence.
By successfully working the twelve step process and traditions; it facilitates transcendence of internalized issues reflective of the pain. In doing so, it can result in the connection with a higher power.
Please purchase "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love" and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power" where I write about go to methods that one can use to release, relinquish, let go of, discharge, and surrender feelings reflective of emotions so that one can connect with a higher power. The books are sold by order through Barnes and Noble or on-line at my website.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior.
Monday, February 7, 2011
Acknowledging Imperfections Facilities Empathy and Self-Acceptance!
Acknowledging Imperfections Facilities Empathy and Self-Acceptance!
When a couple come to me for counseling and are pointing fingers at each other, reacting to each other; the realization is usually it's a pattern about the individual themselves and not, and not, about each other.
The first step is to use a variety of therapeutic techniques that I describe in my books so that each partner connects with their will, their willing (an intention) and their willingness (to commit) to begin to look at their imperfections. Achieving this, it opens the door to refraining from pointing fingers at each other.
I then counsel couples and facilitate each individual to acknowledge their individual imperfections usually coming from family of origin or from other hurt or trauma that the individual has experienced.
The next step is for the individual to begin feeling the feelings reflective of the emotions as it reflects the hurt or trauma. I use once again a variety of techniques that I describe in my books. It's powerful work. The processing of the feelings is one action. It works! I appreciate and ackowledge each partner for their effective work with my techniques.
The empathy for the self, the compassion for the self facilitates empathy, more self acceptance and compassion for each other. The result is greater respect and love for each other. Partners stop pointing fingers, stop attempting to change each other and just begin to accept and have empathy for each other as they each other are.
The result of the empathy and acceptance is that love, intimate love is initiated.
Please purchase my two books described on the side panels. Phone me for your counseling needs at 619-584-8093, invite me to do presentations before your groups for fees and expenses. I look forward to be hearing from you.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
When a couple come to me for counseling and are pointing fingers at each other, reacting to each other; the realization is usually it's a pattern about the individual themselves and not, and not, about each other.
The first step is to use a variety of therapeutic techniques that I describe in my books so that each partner connects with their will, their willing (an intention) and their willingness (to commit) to begin to look at their imperfections. Achieving this, it opens the door to refraining from pointing fingers at each other.
I then counsel couples and facilitate each individual to acknowledge their individual imperfections usually coming from family of origin or from other hurt or trauma that the individual has experienced.
The next step is for the individual to begin feeling the feelings reflective of the emotions as it reflects the hurt or trauma. I use once again a variety of techniques that I describe in my books. It's powerful work. The processing of the feelings is one action. It works! I appreciate and ackowledge each partner for their effective work with my techniques.
The empathy for the self, the compassion for the self facilitates empathy, more self acceptance and compassion for each other. The result is greater respect and love for each other. Partners stop pointing fingers, stop attempting to change each other and just begin to accept and have empathy for each other as they each other are.
The result of the empathy and acceptance is that love, intimate love is initiated.
Please purchase my two books described on the side panels. Phone me for your counseling needs at 619-584-8093, invite me to do presentations before your groups for fees and expenses. I look forward to be hearing from you.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Economic Hardship, Jealousy/Ignorance/Anger/Resentment/Judgement/Prejudice
Economic Hardship, Jealousy/Ignorance/Anger/Resentment/Judgement/Prejudice
It's often that economic individual or group hardship leads to jealousy, ignorance, anger, resentment, judgement, internalized judgement and expressed and/or unexpressed prejudice. The internalized judgement can be other directed as well as self-directed. When one has the discipline to maintain the anger within then it can just create disharmony and disease. If and when one doesn't have the self-discipline to internalize the emotions/attitude then it's a basis for acting out one's feelings and emotions and can result in conflict with others.
If and when one has trained oneself to feel one's feelings; it's then that one can access the suppressed pain, process it, create a dynamic circumstance and situation of flexible intelligence and perhaps, perhaps find a vehicle to resolve the pain within. One can also determine options empower insights to resolve the economic issues and challenges that one experiences.
Think and listen sessions do help! It's where one receives undivided attention from an individual or group as one thinks through a economic challenge.
In addition,the resolution of emotional pain can facilitate flexible intelligence which creates a catlyst for economic insights, alternatives, and possible solutions.
The connection with the spiritual power/higher power is yet another result. The connection with the spiritual power/higher power may also result in creating insights that facilitate a renewed emotional strength that fosters solutions to economic challenges as well.
The emotional confusion is dissolved, the mental faculties are stimulated, clearer thought processes ensue, the mind can better rest, the intuition is triggered, the physical body is strenghten, the creative juices flow without restriction, the heart beat becomes toned, the soul rests easier, renewed energies facilitating new social relationships are created, the spirit is invigorated, and the spiritual connection is empowered.
Please take but a moment and then thereafter a great deal of time to check out, order/purchase dozens of my books located on the side panels. Please learn and practice the methods that are written in the books as well. I'm available for counseling here in San Diego, California. I'm a master of resolving co-dependency issues for couples and individuals. I use empathy, twelve step, empowerment training, manifestations of emotional release, peer counseling structure, affirmations, and mirror work.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology
It's often that economic individual or group hardship leads to jealousy, ignorance, anger, resentment, judgement, internalized judgement and expressed and/or unexpressed prejudice. The internalized judgement can be other directed as well as self-directed. When one has the discipline to maintain the anger within then it can just create disharmony and disease. If and when one doesn't have the self-discipline to internalize the emotions/attitude then it's a basis for acting out one's feelings and emotions and can result in conflict with others.
If and when one has trained oneself to feel one's feelings; it's then that one can access the suppressed pain, process it, create a dynamic circumstance and situation of flexible intelligence and perhaps, perhaps find a vehicle to resolve the pain within. One can also determine options empower insights to resolve the economic issues and challenges that one experiences.
Think and listen sessions do help! It's where one receives undivided attention from an individual or group as one thinks through a economic challenge.
In addition,the resolution of emotional pain can facilitate flexible intelligence which creates a catlyst for economic insights, alternatives, and possible solutions.
The connection with the spiritual power/higher power is yet another result. The connection with the spiritual power/higher power may also result in creating insights that facilitate a renewed emotional strength that fosters solutions to economic challenges as well.
The emotional confusion is dissolved, the mental faculties are stimulated, clearer thought processes ensue, the mind can better rest, the intuition is triggered, the physical body is strenghten, the creative juices flow without restriction, the heart beat becomes toned, the soul rests easier, renewed energies facilitating new social relationships are created, the spirit is invigorated, and the spiritual connection is empowered.
Please take but a moment and then thereafter a great deal of time to check out, order/purchase dozens of my books located on the side panels. Please learn and practice the methods that are written in the books as well. I'm available for counseling here in San Diego, California. I'm a master of resolving co-dependency issues for couples and individuals. I use empathy, twelve step, empowerment training, manifestations of emotional release, peer counseling structure, affirmations, and mirror work.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology
Monday, January 31, 2011
Stop It!
Stop It!
Are you aware and alert to that which triggers or signals your knee jerk stress or distress reactions/responses that causes irrational behaviors? Are you aware and alert to how the recreation of past hurts/traumas into present time hook into your partners recreation of their past hurts/traumas into present time reactions and responses to yours? If and when you use either immediate self-talk such as "stop it", or some other immediate method to interrupt or intervene in the resulting irrational behavior then it's long overdo to take charge. It's important to contradict the pattern or pull of distress. The choice of method depends upon the power of the trigger and the distress which has been triggered.
There are many examples such as separation, abandonment, betrayal, birth trauma, molestation, emotional abuse, and genetically perpetuated inherited distresses.
If and when you are overwhelmed by the circumstances or situations which causes a powerful trigger of distress then fear, anger, or sad can very well take charge. Bi-polar, anxiety, depression, panic attacks, schizophrenic delusionary reactions call for more empowered methods than "self-talk".
Self-talk may help in the present moment but then a more powerful method like reiki, primal, connected healing breath may be necessary to discharge, relinquish, surrender, release, and let go of the emotions reflective of the restimulated distress or even distresses which can very well be in the range of from fear through terror, anger through rage, or sadness through grief. These issues often grip the human being mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Of course there are many more go to methods that one can use as well. Often prayer is a very common and effective method that results in faith.
Please check out my books on the side panels and purchase a bunch of them. I'm available for counseling to help others put a stop to harmful triggers that cause the recreation of irrational dysfunctional behaviors.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters Human Behavior, Psychology
Are you aware and alert to that which triggers or signals your knee jerk stress or distress reactions/responses that causes irrational behaviors? Are you aware and alert to how the recreation of past hurts/traumas into present time hook into your partners recreation of their past hurts/traumas into present time reactions and responses to yours? If and when you use either immediate self-talk such as "stop it", or some other immediate method to interrupt or intervene in the resulting irrational behavior then it's long overdo to take charge. It's important to contradict the pattern or pull of distress. The choice of method depends upon the power of the trigger and the distress which has been triggered.
There are many examples such as separation, abandonment, betrayal, birth trauma, molestation, emotional abuse, and genetically perpetuated inherited distresses.
If and when you are overwhelmed by the circumstances or situations which causes a powerful trigger of distress then fear, anger, or sad can very well take charge. Bi-polar, anxiety, depression, panic attacks, schizophrenic delusionary reactions call for more empowered methods than "self-talk".
Self-talk may help in the present moment but then a more powerful method like reiki, primal, connected healing breath may be necessary to discharge, relinquish, surrender, release, and let go of the emotions reflective of the restimulated distress or even distresses which can very well be in the range of from fear through terror, anger through rage, or sadness through grief. These issues often grip the human being mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Of course there are many more go to methods that one can use as well. Often prayer is a very common and effective method that results in faith.
Please check out my books on the side panels and purchase a bunch of them. I'm available for counseling to help others put a stop to harmful triggers that cause the recreation of irrational dysfunctional behaviors.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters Human Behavior, Psychology
Friday, January 28, 2011
What is Emotional Freedom?
What is Emotional Freedom?
The term Emotional Freedom is becoming a go to term, a fad. They are exciting, dynamic words. It's great that the words emotional freedom have become a great way to promote sales of books. However, when you begin to feel the feelings, and go into the layers of feelings reflective of hurts, and trauma it's then that the reality of the pain becomes a tenacious entity to be reckoned with.
Patterns of pain are ingrained, hard wired, inprinted, compulsive, tenacious, and frustrating. It requires a mental, emotional, and spiritual cleansing.
It's the reason Animated Laughter with Feelings is a great modality to begin the process of addressing effectively, efficiently, and with discipline the emotional energy. We can in real terms learn to lighten up when feeling the emotions and cleanse ourselves naturally.
Please take a moment and read "Forward to I Dare to Heal with Laughter". I'm hoping that I can sell enough of my books to publish the text. With your help of purchases; I'll be able to do so.
Please take but a moment to click on the side panel and read about both books.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
The term Emotional Freedom is becoming a go to term, a fad. They are exciting, dynamic words. It's great that the words emotional freedom have become a great way to promote sales of books. However, when you begin to feel the feelings, and go into the layers of feelings reflective of hurts, and trauma it's then that the reality of the pain becomes a tenacious entity to be reckoned with.
Patterns of pain are ingrained, hard wired, inprinted, compulsive, tenacious, and frustrating. It requires a mental, emotional, and spiritual cleansing.
It's the reason Animated Laughter with Feelings is a great modality to begin the process of addressing effectively, efficiently, and with discipline the emotional energy. We can in real terms learn to lighten up when feeling the emotions and cleanse ourselves naturally.
Please take a moment and read "Forward to I Dare to Heal with Laughter". I'm hoping that I can sell enough of my books to publish the text. With your help of purchases; I'll be able to do so.
Please take but a moment to click on the side panel and read about both books.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
Taking Charge - Contradicting - Schizophrenia
Taking Charge - Contradicting - Schizophrenia
I have an empathetic, empowering approach if and when I counsel others. I use peer counseling, manifestations of emotional release (yawn, animated laughter with feelings, with fear, hot/cold sweats, chattering, shaking, encourage anger release (not acting out), animated verbalization of the hurt/traumatizing experiences), scratching (it's under my skin and I just need to get it out) primal sound, twelve step co-dependence principles, and mirror work.
Presently, I have no schizophrenic clients. I find with those schizophrenics who have connections with reality; it's empowering to build their empowerment from the reality that they are "connected" too!
Schizophrenia is a powerful distress from reality. The "pull" of the distress is powerful. There is but one best contradiction to the pull of the schizophrenic distress ie., the primal power, its sound can fundamentally empower an individual to take charge. I recommend daily practice. Daily practice of primal sound especially for the client suffering from schizophrenia is mandatory.
The power of the schizophrenic distress reflects deeply seated co-dependent
traits. The distress is hard wired, compulsive, ingrained, inprinted, genetically coded and above all quite stubborn. The client must, must practice primal on a consistent, effective, efficient, and in a disciplined way. It's a war and many, many battles require wins.
There is hope. Nature supports the emergence of human beings from all distress.
Please check out my books on the side panel. Please purchase lots, and lots of them. I'm available for counseling and presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human
Behavior from an accredited university.
I have an empathetic, empowering approach if and when I counsel others. I use peer counseling, manifestations of emotional release (yawn, animated laughter with feelings, with fear, hot/cold sweats, chattering, shaking, encourage anger release (not acting out), animated verbalization of the hurt/traumatizing experiences), scratching (it's under my skin and I just need to get it out) primal sound, twelve step co-dependence principles, and mirror work.
Presently, I have no schizophrenic clients. I find with those schizophrenics who have connections with reality; it's empowering to build their empowerment from the reality that they are "connected" too!
Schizophrenia is a powerful distress from reality. The "pull" of the distress is powerful. There is but one best contradiction to the pull of the schizophrenic distress ie., the primal power, its sound can fundamentally empower an individual to take charge. I recommend daily practice. Daily practice of primal sound especially for the client suffering from schizophrenia is mandatory.
The power of the schizophrenic distress reflects deeply seated co-dependent
traits. The distress is hard wired, compulsive, ingrained, inprinted, genetically coded and above all quite stubborn. The client must, must practice primal on a consistent, effective, efficient, and in a disciplined way. It's a war and many, many battles require wins.
There is hope. Nature supports the emergence of human beings from all distress.
Please check out my books on the side panel. Please purchase lots, and lots of them. I'm available for counseling and presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human
Behavior from an accredited university.
Monday, January 24, 2011
Delusions Reflective of Schizophrenia
Delusions Reflective of Schizophrenia
Ms. "G" and I had a cup of coffee. I invited her to a cup of coffee. She claimed that her Mom and family had a history of schizophrenia. She even shared a story with me about her own delusionary state. Yet, I made the decision to get to know her. After all, I've got nothing to be freightened of?
It's 12:30 a.m. Sunday morning and I'm listening to a reknown Psychiatrist speak about empowering those who suffer from schizophrenia. My phone rings and Ms. "G" leaves a message which I chose not to listen to at the time. The next morning I press the listen bottom and Ms. "G" is having a delusion about how I, a neighbor, and "Enrique" have sexually harassed her in the bathtub? Her delusion frightened me or restimulated my old terror from my childhood. At the same time, I felt compassion and empathy for Ms. "G".
I released my own fears and terror and decided to take my distance from Ms. "G". However, when I got home the next evening there was yet another message from Ms. "G". It was an apology! I discharged my terror reflective of her delusions and my fears of my being harrassed by the police because of her disconnect from reality.
My emotional discharge proved to be beneficial. I experienced greater emotional strength, more of a connection to my higher power and just felt better. For me, it was an accomplishment.
Please purhcase my two books, invite me to make a presentation, pay me well, and phone me about my counseling you on your co-dependence issues.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA, Business Admin, M.A. Human Behavior Psychology
Ms. "G" and I had a cup of coffee. I invited her to a cup of coffee. She claimed that her Mom and family had a history of schizophrenia. She even shared a story with me about her own delusionary state. Yet, I made the decision to get to know her. After all, I've got nothing to be freightened of?
It's 12:30 a.m. Sunday morning and I'm listening to a reknown Psychiatrist speak about empowering those who suffer from schizophrenia. My phone rings and Ms. "G" leaves a message which I chose not to listen to at the time. The next morning I press the listen bottom and Ms. "G" is having a delusion about how I, a neighbor, and "Enrique" have sexually harassed her in the bathtub? Her delusion frightened me or restimulated my old terror from my childhood. At the same time, I felt compassion and empathy for Ms. "G".
I released my own fears and terror and decided to take my distance from Ms. "G". However, when I got home the next evening there was yet another message from Ms. "G". It was an apology! I discharged my terror reflective of her delusions and my fears of my being harrassed by the police because of her disconnect from reality.
My emotional discharge proved to be beneficial. I experienced greater emotional strength, more of a connection to my higher power and just felt better. For me, it was an accomplishment.
Please purhcase my two books, invite me to make a presentation, pay me well, and phone me about my counseling you on your co-dependence issues.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA, Business Admin, M.A. Human Behavior Psychology
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Co-Dependence, The Stepping Stone to Other Mental Health Issues
Co-Dependence, The Stepping Stone to Other Mental Health Issues.
Co-dependence is the stepping stone to bi-polar, anxiety disorders, panic attacks and even schizophrenia. The more I've become acquainted with the power of primal sound therapy and the manifestations of emotional release the more I've realized how the symptoms of bi-polar, anxiety disorder, panic attack and even schizophrenia can be resolved with effective, efficient, and disciplined daily practice of the above methods.
I'm an expert with the processing of feelings and emotions. The above mental health issues all involve suppressed and accumulated profound feelings reflective of emotions. As I've used the above methods to process my feelings and as I've become acquainted with the above mental health issues; it has become clearier how the processing of feelings reflective of emotions can thoroughly resolve the above mentioned mental disorders.
It's most definitely a revolutionary discovery and a extremely hopeful one. Just think, the resolutions of bi-polar, anxiety disorders, even schizophrenia! In addition, the complete resolutions of depression of any kind. There resolution is more than possible, and in fact probable. There resolution is absolute. I can honestly say this because of years and years of daily practice. As I've processed feelings reflective of emotions over the years, I've freed myself of devastating terrifying distress. I've achieved this on a daily basis!
No, I've never suffered from schizophrenia but have suffered from the other mental health issues. I no longer suffer from them and I've come clear to a point where I can say, I feel precious and free and wish the same with and to others.
Please read about the methods in my two books on the side panel, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love", and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power". I'm an expert couselor so please phone me and reserve counseling time with me if you suffer from co-dependency issues. I'm available for presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
Co-dependence is the stepping stone to bi-polar, anxiety disorders, panic attacks and even schizophrenia. The more I've become acquainted with the power of primal sound therapy and the manifestations of emotional release the more I've realized how the symptoms of bi-polar, anxiety disorder, panic attack and even schizophrenia can be resolved with effective, efficient, and disciplined daily practice of the above methods.
I'm an expert with the processing of feelings and emotions. The above mental health issues all involve suppressed and accumulated profound feelings reflective of emotions. As I've used the above methods to process my feelings and as I've become acquainted with the above mental health issues; it has become clearier how the processing of feelings reflective of emotions can thoroughly resolve the above mentioned mental disorders.
It's most definitely a revolutionary discovery and a extremely hopeful one. Just think, the resolutions of bi-polar, anxiety disorders, even schizophrenia! In addition, the complete resolutions of depression of any kind. There resolution is more than possible, and in fact probable. There resolution is absolute. I can honestly say this because of years and years of daily practice. As I've processed feelings reflective of emotions over the years, I've freed myself of devastating terrifying distress. I've achieved this on a daily basis!
No, I've never suffered from schizophrenia but have suffered from the other mental health issues. I no longer suffer from them and I've come clear to a point where I can say, I feel precious and free and wish the same with and to others.
Please read about the methods in my two books on the side panel, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love", and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power". I'm an expert couselor so please phone me and reserve counseling time with me if you suffer from co-dependency issues. I'm available for presentations for fees and expenses.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
Friday, January 21, 2011
Nerves of "Stainless" Steel
Nerves of "Stainless" Steel
The use of affirmations along with dynamically releasing, relinquishing, letting go of, and discharging distress and stress causes profound integration of mind, body, and spirit.
When a person is unnerved by pressures experienced in daily life, work, family, friends, other relationships, situations, and circumstances; using an affirmation like "my nerves are made of stainless steel, meaning deeply reaches", and discharges the emotional static by using both primal sound and the manifestations of emotional release; it will result in profound integration of the self.
Astonishingly, it brings about a spiritual, and practical synchronization of events that facilitates emotional well being!
It results in an individual performing at their personal best. They become stronger, more resilient, more persevering, more dynamic, more energized, more alert, more aware, more human,and more flexible in their thinking. The ability to multi-task is amplified as well as their ability to relax and improve sleep are enhanced as well.
Please purchase my two books located on the side panel, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love", and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power". I write about methods that can be learned to bring about the result that I write about above. I'm available for presentations for fees and expenses as well as counseling those who have a will, are willing, and have a willingness to contradict their co-dependency issues of control, compliance, denial, and low self-esteem issues. Please check out my website for my contact information.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
The use of affirmations along with dynamically releasing, relinquishing, letting go of, and discharging distress and stress causes profound integration of mind, body, and spirit.
When a person is unnerved by pressures experienced in daily life, work, family, friends, other relationships, situations, and circumstances; using an affirmation like "my nerves are made of stainless steel, meaning deeply reaches", and discharges the emotional static by using both primal sound and the manifestations of emotional release; it will result in profound integration of the self.
Astonishingly, it brings about a spiritual, and practical synchronization of events that facilitates emotional well being!
It results in an individual performing at their personal best. They become stronger, more resilient, more persevering, more dynamic, more energized, more alert, more aware, more human,and more flexible in their thinking. The ability to multi-task is amplified as well as their ability to relax and improve sleep are enhanced as well.
Please purchase my two books located on the side panel, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love", and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power". I write about methods that can be learned to bring about the result that I write about above. I'm available for presentations for fees and expenses as well as counseling those who have a will, are willing, and have a willingness to contradict their co-dependency issues of control, compliance, denial, and low self-esteem issues. Please check out my website for my contact information.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
Monday, January 17, 2011
Letting Go, Discharging, Relinquishing, Releasing, Letting "It" Out!
Letting Go, Discharging, Relinquishing, Releasing, Letting "It" Out!
We all need to learn to let go of accumulated stress and distress. If and when we are impacted my emotional or physical hurt or trauma then it can take time, sometimes lots of time for us to let it go.
It all depends upon our vulnerability to certain hurts and traumas. We all have our vulnerabilities for a variety of reasons. It can come from birth trauma, from lack of nurturing in the formative years, sudden terrifying experiences that cause trauma or hurt.
I've heard people say that we just must move on........... Well, when we repress and event, we suppress the feelings; (sometimes, many times layers of feelings in our emotional bodies) and in doing so it leaves us vulnerable to disease and amplified/restimulated emotional hurt and trauma.
It's best to have "go to methods", practices that can aliviate as quickly as possible our triggered hurts and traumas. When we let the feelings go our clear thinking returns and subsequently we become energized to take action, rationally, to bring to an end a distressful or stressful experience. Please find in my blogs a Letter to Petra. A Letter to Petra describes the three main categories of go to practices and methods.
My books describe a myriad of ways that we can achieve relief from present and past hurt. Please purchase many of them at Barnes and Noble, or on my website through paypal.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
We all need to learn to let go of accumulated stress and distress. If and when we are impacted my emotional or physical hurt or trauma then it can take time, sometimes lots of time for us to let it go.
It all depends upon our vulnerability to certain hurts and traumas. We all have our vulnerabilities for a variety of reasons. It can come from birth trauma, from lack of nurturing in the formative years, sudden terrifying experiences that cause trauma or hurt.
I've heard people say that we just must move on........... Well, when we repress and event, we suppress the feelings; (sometimes, many times layers of feelings in our emotional bodies) and in doing so it leaves us vulnerable to disease and amplified/restimulated emotional hurt and trauma.
It's best to have "go to methods", practices that can aliviate as quickly as possible our triggered hurts and traumas. When we let the feelings go our clear thinking returns and subsequently we become energized to take action, rationally, to bring to an end a distressful or stressful experience. Please find in my blogs a Letter to Petra. A Letter to Petra describes the three main categories of go to practices and methods.
My books describe a myriad of ways that we can achieve relief from present and past hurt. Please purchase many of them at Barnes and Noble, or on my website through paypal.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior.
Saturday, January 15, 2011
If and When "You" are Overwhelmed!
If and When "You" are Overwhelmed!
If and when you are overwhelmed by an individual or individuals who by word, or words, and/or their body language "overwhelms" you; then know that whether you are conscious or not "disempowerment" of yourself just may result!
We are often unaware of the internalized result of our being, being "disempowered" by the perpetrator. The person may be a family member, an employer, a friend, anyone who "comes on" in a strong way at you, through you, with you, about you, or in connection to you in a direct or manipulative way.
Whether or not we are alert to or aware of it "that person" is a "controller". Yes, it's deceptive "their control". It can be someone who is harboring jealousy or anger, or supressed unaware resentment. It could be someone who is in power in a hierarchy?
If and when you feel voiceless, have difficulty responding, feel emotionally diffused, defenseless, disarmed,then most certainly you are experiencing "disempowerment"!
One may even be hard upon and within oneself. One may dislike oneself. However, it's those times when one must be alert to possible knee jerk reactions of self-dislike and embrace, ingrain, inprint, hard wire self-like, self-compassion, and self-kindness, and above all self-love!
Again, the desempowerment process is deceptive. Often, one experiences a knee jerk internalized reaction of "disconnect from feeling the emotional hurt or the trauma. The disempowerment may be deading to the emotional body!
It's time to first and foremost to become alert to, aware of your "owning" and "owning", as well as "acknowledging to yourself" your own experience of disempowerment. "Denial" is common but unacceptable!
There are many methods that can and will help you if and when you have the will, the willing, and the willingness to support, receive support from yourself and others. Using the mirror and affirmations is one of them. Seeking counseling with me is yet another! I recommend both!
Please purchase lots of my books, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love, and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power" and seek counseling with me. I use an empathetic approach involving twelve step, peer counseling, mirror work, and empowerment practice. My contact information is on my website and is contained in the books as well. I do both individual and partner counseling. There will be lots of consciousness raising and intervention that takes place with my clients. I look forward in hearing from you. I'm non-licensed and my clients are required to sign a non-liability form; holding me non-liable for your results. The results of my couseling others has been extremely positive. Please contact me at 619-584-8093 or 619-203-5384 for my reasonable rates. I'm located in San Diego, California.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior Accredited.
If and when you are overwhelmed by an individual or individuals who by word, or words, and/or their body language "overwhelms" you; then know that whether you are conscious or not "disempowerment" of yourself just may result!
We are often unaware of the internalized result of our being, being "disempowered" by the perpetrator. The person may be a family member, an employer, a friend, anyone who "comes on" in a strong way at you, through you, with you, about you, or in connection to you in a direct or manipulative way.
Whether or not we are alert to or aware of it "that person" is a "controller". Yes, it's deceptive "their control". It can be someone who is harboring jealousy or anger, or supressed unaware resentment. It could be someone who is in power in a hierarchy?
If and when you feel voiceless, have difficulty responding, feel emotionally diffused, defenseless, disarmed,then most certainly you are experiencing "disempowerment"!
One may even be hard upon and within oneself. One may dislike oneself. However, it's those times when one must be alert to possible knee jerk reactions of self-dislike and embrace, ingrain, inprint, hard wire self-like, self-compassion, and self-kindness, and above all self-love!
Again, the desempowerment process is deceptive. Often, one experiences a knee jerk internalized reaction of "disconnect from feeling the emotional hurt or the trauma. The disempowerment may be deading to the emotional body!
It's time to first and foremost to become alert to, aware of your "owning" and "owning", as well as "acknowledging to yourself" your own experience of disempowerment. "Denial" is common but unacceptable!
There are many methods that can and will help you if and when you have the will, the willing, and the willingness to support, receive support from yourself and others. Using the mirror and affirmations is one of them. Seeking counseling with me is yet another! I recommend both!
Please purchase lots of my books, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love, and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power" and seek counseling with me. I use an empathetic approach involving twelve step, peer counseling, mirror work, and empowerment practice. My contact information is on my website and is contained in the books as well. I do both individual and partner counseling. There will be lots of consciousness raising and intervention that takes place with my clients. I look forward in hearing from you. I'm non-licensed and my clients are required to sign a non-liability form; holding me non-liable for your results. The results of my couseling others has been extremely positive. Please contact me at 619-584-8093 or 619-203-5384 for my reasonable rates. I'm located in San Diego, California.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior Accredited.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Making the Connections
Making the Connections
When I'm hurt by others; it may be an opportunity for me to experience more self-discovery. It may be an opportunity for me to become emotionally stronger. It may be an opportunity for me to breath deep into the depths of my emotional body and "experience" and release the emotional pain. I usually use primal sound to achieve profound personal growth reflective of a present time hurt. I find that I make cognitve connections in practicing primal sound after my being, being hurt.
Recently, someone "screamed" at me and I used this experience to process the terror I experienced. I cleared the emotion, "the terror" by using primal sound and made some remarkable connections.
I also was able to see my way clear of emotionally hurt to respond by reacting by writing a letter to the "screamer" and explaining/clearifying the circumstances and situation of my actions.
I'm powerless over others behavior. I cannot control others. Therefore, it's reason for me to only, only think well of myself. I have often felt hurt, poorly of myself, guilty that it was "my fault" that they are behaving by screaming at me. My realization is "I have absolutely no control over how others react or respond. If and when they respond/react by screaming at me; it most certainly doesn't mean I'm at fault! It's others choice to choose to begin screaming. Perhaps, others are frightened and that is why they have choosen to react/respond by screaming? For whatever the reason for their behavior; I ought to think well of myself because I do not have control over their behavior. I'm powerless over their behavior. It's their choice to behave as "they" do!
We're born naturally believing that we are all powerful in our worlds. When others behavior inpacts us with hurt or trauma; we become confused and there is a need for us to emotionally clear the feelings reflective of our hurt and traumatized emotions. We learn that our power has limitations! It's a very, very, rude awakening into reality.
Please purchase lots of my books on the side panel. I'm available for counseling in San Diego and presentations. I'm an expert with co-dependence issues.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology.
When I'm hurt by others; it may be an opportunity for me to experience more self-discovery. It may be an opportunity for me to become emotionally stronger. It may be an opportunity for me to breath deep into the depths of my emotional body and "experience" and release the emotional pain. I usually use primal sound to achieve profound personal growth reflective of a present time hurt. I find that I make cognitve connections in practicing primal sound after my being, being hurt.
Recently, someone "screamed" at me and I used this experience to process the terror I experienced. I cleared the emotion, "the terror" by using primal sound and made some remarkable connections.
I also was able to see my way clear of emotionally hurt to respond by reacting by writing a letter to the "screamer" and explaining/clearifying the circumstances and situation of my actions.
I'm powerless over others behavior. I cannot control others. Therefore, it's reason for me to only, only think well of myself. I have often felt hurt, poorly of myself, guilty that it was "my fault" that they are behaving by screaming at me. My realization is "I have absolutely no control over how others react or respond. If and when they respond/react by screaming at me; it most certainly doesn't mean I'm at fault! It's others choice to choose to begin screaming. Perhaps, others are frightened and that is why they have choosen to react/respond by screaming? For whatever the reason for their behavior; I ought to think well of myself because I do not have control over their behavior. I'm powerless over their behavior. It's their choice to behave as "they" do!
We're born naturally believing that we are all powerful in our worlds. When others behavior inpacts us with hurt or trauma; we become confused and there is a need for us to emotionally clear the feelings reflective of our hurt and traumatized emotions. We learn that our power has limitations! It's a very, very, rude awakening into reality.
Please purchase lots of my books on the side panel. I'm available for counseling in San Diego and presentations. I'm an expert with co-dependence issues.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology.
Monday, January 10, 2011
"Pressing"
"Pressing"
Does the emotional stress and distress ever evolve to a point where it's "pressing" against you in the walls of your skull? Does the tension ever feel unbearable. Did you ever think "I cannot take it anymore and something "inside of me" has just got to give"! The tension is "pressing" and I just got to let go, let it out, release it, relinquish it, discharge it and free myself from and of it! Well, we've all been there.
Yes, it feels good to exercise; jog, aerobics, dance, but do we in real terms get it out? In a "Letter to Petra"; I describe a variety of ways how one can process the stress and distress. We all have our vulnerabilities and accumulate feelings of distress and stress within.
I like "animated laughter with feelings" and primal sound for "really" getting my tension out. It works extremely well for me. The "pressing" becomes a depressing experience and not a depression experience. The difference is huge.
I've learned the manifestations of emotional release and I'm very thankful that I have mastered the manifestations. The yawn, animated laughter, tearing, sobbing, shaking, hot, cold sweats to name but a few. They have saved my live. Now, it's your turn. What works for you? Now, what really can work better for you?
Please check out and purhcase my books on the side panel. The books offer many suggestions for letting go. I'm available for counseling on co-dependency issues in San Diego and also available for presentations.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior Masters.
Does the emotional stress and distress ever evolve to a point where it's "pressing" against you in the walls of your skull? Does the tension ever feel unbearable. Did you ever think "I cannot take it anymore and something "inside of me" has just got to give"! The tension is "pressing" and I just got to let go, let it out, release it, relinquish it, discharge it and free myself from and of it! Well, we've all been there.
Yes, it feels good to exercise; jog, aerobics, dance, but do we in real terms get it out? In a "Letter to Petra"; I describe a variety of ways how one can process the stress and distress. We all have our vulnerabilities and accumulate feelings of distress and stress within.
I like "animated laughter with feelings" and primal sound for "really" getting my tension out. It works extremely well for me. The "pressing" becomes a depressing experience and not a depression experience. The difference is huge.
I've learned the manifestations of emotional release and I'm very thankful that I have mastered the manifestations. The yawn, animated laughter, tearing, sobbing, shaking, hot, cold sweats to name but a few. They have saved my live. Now, it's your turn. What works for you? Now, what really can work better for you?
Please check out and purhcase my books on the side panel. The books offer many suggestions for letting go. I'm available for counseling on co-dependency issues in San Diego and also available for presentations.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior Masters.
Friday, January 7, 2011
"I'm Only In Faith Because of My Connection to My Higher Power"
"I'm Only In Faith Because of My Connection to My Higher Power"
My client purchased a Medical Plan from me in the month of November. It was scheduled to go into effect on January 1st 2011. I faxed it to the company on a date certain in November without a confirmation from the machine. It was my mistake of not obtaining the machine confirmation. I've never had an issue with the company receiving any of my faxes. I attempted to confirm by phone on January 6th and to my great surprise the company claimed that it had not received the fax. I phoned several times and the company confirmed that it had not received the fax and I didn't have the November fax confirmation that I had sent it. The company claimed that they couldn't give my client an effective date for the plan without the fax confirmation. I would have to wait until the subsequent week before the Federal Agency would make a decision as to whether or not my client would receive an effective date. regardless, the effective date, if given would be in February.
I needed to make a decision whether to wait until the subsequent week or telephone the client and notify him. I decided to have faith in my higher power, think well of myself and make the phone call to my client. My client returned my phone call and stated that it wasn't an issue for him because I had mailed him a letter stating not to cancel his present plan in the month of January until he received confirmation that his new plan had gone into effect. I couldn't believe it! I in fact mailed that letter to him in November just as an instinctive, impulsive action never dreaming that his application would be lost. I never, but never send a letter to any of my clients instructing them to maintain insurance coverage until they receive confirmation from the new plan. My connection with my higher power together with my past experience is the only explanation I could possible give for maintaining trust and confidence with my client.
Please purchase my books on the side panel. You'll learn by practicing the methods in my books how to embrace the connection with a higher power each and every day. The higher power works in our lives to help us to help ourselves.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology
My client purchased a Medical Plan from me in the month of November. It was scheduled to go into effect on January 1st 2011. I faxed it to the company on a date certain in November without a confirmation from the machine. It was my mistake of not obtaining the machine confirmation. I've never had an issue with the company receiving any of my faxes. I attempted to confirm by phone on January 6th and to my great surprise the company claimed that it had not received the fax. I phoned several times and the company confirmed that it had not received the fax and I didn't have the November fax confirmation that I had sent it. The company claimed that they couldn't give my client an effective date for the plan without the fax confirmation. I would have to wait until the subsequent week before the Federal Agency would make a decision as to whether or not my client would receive an effective date. regardless, the effective date, if given would be in February.
I needed to make a decision whether to wait until the subsequent week or telephone the client and notify him. I decided to have faith in my higher power, think well of myself and make the phone call to my client. My client returned my phone call and stated that it wasn't an issue for him because I had mailed him a letter stating not to cancel his present plan in the month of January until he received confirmation that his new plan had gone into effect. I couldn't believe it! I in fact mailed that letter to him in November just as an instinctive, impulsive action never dreaming that his application would be lost. I never, but never send a letter to any of my clients instructing them to maintain insurance coverage until they receive confirmation from the new plan. My connection with my higher power together with my past experience is the only explanation I could possible give for maintaining trust and confidence with my client.
Please purchase my books on the side panel. You'll learn by practicing the methods in my books how to embrace the connection with a higher power each and every day. The higher power works in our lives to help us to help ourselves.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Empowering the Collective Consciousness
Empowering the Collective Consciousness
The theme "I Dare to Heal" is in essence "We Dare to Heal"! The goal of the theme of this blog is to empower the collective consciousness by connecting with our higher power for the expansion of all components of the self; mental, emotional, physical, social, spirit, spiritual, heart, and soul centers.
The power and empowerment of the collective spiritual consciousness has produced great religions, Christianity, Islam, to name but a few. The greater collective spiritual consciousness facilitates a connection with but one higher power. The higher power has the potential to help us to help ourselves to heal our hurts, and traumas. If and when we allow and permit our higher power by way of a variety of methods to support us to process our feelings reflective of our emotions; we can facilitate our healing by way for example of the circular healing breath methods. It's our choice. My question is what is your choice?
Please check out and purchase many of my books on the side panel. The books suggest many methods to accomplish the natural healing of our collective hurts and traumas. I'm also available for counseling others on co-dependency issues in San Diego or by E-mail subscription.
Best
Joel BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior, Psychology.
The theme "I Dare to Heal" is in essence "We Dare to Heal"! The goal of the theme of this blog is to empower the collective consciousness by connecting with our higher power for the expansion of all components of the self; mental, emotional, physical, social, spirit, spiritual, heart, and soul centers.
The power and empowerment of the collective spiritual consciousness has produced great religions, Christianity, Islam, to name but a few. The greater collective spiritual consciousness facilitates a connection with but one higher power. The higher power has the potential to help us to help ourselves to heal our hurts, and traumas. If and when we allow and permit our higher power by way of a variety of methods to support us to process our feelings reflective of our emotions; we can facilitate our healing by way for example of the circular healing breath methods. It's our choice. My question is what is your choice?
Please check out and purchase many of my books on the side panel. The books suggest many methods to accomplish the natural healing of our collective hurts and traumas. I'm also available for counseling others on co-dependency issues in San Diego or by E-mail subscription.
Best
Joel BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior, Psychology.
Monday, January 3, 2011
Clearing Emotion
Clearing Emotion
Are you "very" emotional. Do you react/respond in an exaggerated emotional way. Is it your temperament; an aspect of your personality? Is it unfulfilled past or present needs that fuel your emotional reactions/responses? Does the above circumstances trigger impulsive/compulsive decision making on your part. Has it caused you to make unhealthy or healthy decisions? It's certainly difficult to descern whether or not ones decisions have been impacted by emotions. Have the emotions caused confusion for you.
I have found by clearing my emotions through a variety of methods, by processing my emotions; I've been able to "get clearer" in my "thinking" and therefore have been able to make more decisive decisions.
One aspect of co-dependency behavior is the inability to make decisions; to procrastinate or not make a decision at all. When you in fact do not make a decision in essence you have made the decision not to "not make a decision".
The resolution is that we can only do the best we can and that it's helpful to clear our emotion before deciding. It's appropriate to evaluate the information we have on and in hand; seek more information and then make the decision. What's your point of view?
Please check out my books on the side panel. They're available from Barnes & Noble or from pay pay on my website. There are many go to methods in the books that help people to clear emotions and facilitate decision making.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology.
Are you "very" emotional. Do you react/respond in an exaggerated emotional way. Is it your temperament; an aspect of your personality? Is it unfulfilled past or present needs that fuel your emotional reactions/responses? Does the above circumstances trigger impulsive/compulsive decision making on your part. Has it caused you to make unhealthy or healthy decisions? It's certainly difficult to descern whether or not ones decisions have been impacted by emotions. Have the emotions caused confusion for you.
I have found by clearing my emotions through a variety of methods, by processing my emotions; I've been able to "get clearer" in my "thinking" and therefore have been able to make more decisive decisions.
One aspect of co-dependency behavior is the inability to make decisions; to procrastinate or not make a decision at all. When you in fact do not make a decision in essence you have made the decision not to "not make a decision".
The resolution is that we can only do the best we can and that it's helpful to clear our emotion before deciding. It's appropriate to evaluate the information we have on and in hand; seek more information and then make the decision. What's your point of view?
Please check out my books on the side panel. They're available from Barnes & Noble or from pay pay on my website. There are many go to methods in the books that help people to clear emotions and facilitate decision making.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior Psychology.
Sunday, January 2, 2011
Patience in and to Setting Boundaries
Many who suffer from co-dependency impulsively have an "inability to see alternatives to situations,thus respond very impulsively" and set boundaries in their relationships. This is true in family relationships where a wife or husband "must" be with "their" family during the holidays. Where there is a disagreement between the partners as to filling or satisfying "needs" in family relationships impulsively setting boundaries by one or the other partner may not be wise. It's here where compromise is necessary from "both partners". Often, one of the partners "declare", "it has to be "my" way. One may alienate the other partner with a "my way" boundary. It's a relationship and therefore compromise is necessary "most of the time". Both partners deserve to "get" their needs met with compromise.
Please check out my books on the the side panel and purchase the books for your friends, acquaintances, spiritual houses of worship, and community organizations. The books describe many methods as to how to approch ingrained, hard wired, imprinted, compulsive unhealthy behavior patterns.
Best
Joel BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters in Human Behavior Psychology
Please check out my books on the the side panel and purchase the books for your friends, acquaintances, spiritual houses of worship, and community organizations. The books describe many methods as to how to approch ingrained, hard wired, imprinted, compulsive unhealthy behavior patterns.
Best
Joel BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Masters in Human Behavior Psychology
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Is It Time to Get Recovery?
Is It Time to Get Recovery?
It's a new year and yes it's time to get recovery. There are many who daily are "in need" of recovering from co-dependency issues. The categories of controlling others, pleasing others, walking around in denial of resentments, fearful, sadnesses prevail. The experience of low self-esteem, hurting family members, fellow employees, friends exist. It's definitely time to make amends to yourself and to others. I encourage those to take action and join a co-dependency anonymous meeting and begin "again" on the road to more awareness of issues and learn to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to address issues.
Please check out my books on the side panel. I'm available for relationship counseling here in San Diego and available to make presentations about both the new medical care affordable act and anything that I've written on the blog or in my books.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior.
It's a new year and yes it's time to get recovery. There are many who daily are "in need" of recovering from co-dependency issues. The categories of controlling others, pleasing others, walking around in denial of resentments, fearful, sadnesses prevail. The experience of low self-esteem, hurting family members, fellow employees, friends exist. It's definitely time to make amends to yourself and to others. I encourage those to take action and join a co-dependency anonymous meeting and begin "again" on the road to more awareness of issues and learn to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to address issues.
Please check out my books on the side panel. I'm available for relationship counseling here in San Diego and available to make presentations about both the new medical care affordable act and anything that I've written on the blog or in my books.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Human Behavior.
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