Forward of "I Dare to Heal with Laughter"

This is copied from my blog.com. The third book is complete except for an edit. When monies begin to come to me from advertising on my blog; I'll publish the third book. Here is the forward to "I Dare to Heal with Laughter". I want to thank you all for E-mailing me and asking to advertise on the blog.

THE ESSENTIAL ELEMENT OF ANIMATED LAUGHTER

My chief goal in writing the “I Dare to Heal” series is to from a humanistic psychological, body; mind and spiritual approach help others to help themselves with the physical and emotional issues that impact their lives. My point of view is to always address the human side of the human being. This point of view can facilitate clear thinking about the human being. It’s quite challenging to find the human being behind the myriad of imprinted, embedded, ingrained, deeply rooted, hard wired, genetically coded patterns that one has acquired in life. When a human being willingly applies themselves consistently with a variety of self-help personal growth techniques success is possible and probably. The elegant solution to humanistic problems is to always address them in a humanistic holistic way! Humankind temperaments and personalities are impacted by the hurts and the traumas reflective of an individual’s biological, environmental, developmental, experiential, and genetic components. Human beings and life itself becomes complicated when they experience hurt and trauma. Quite often it’s “Patterns” that inhabit and hide the essence of a human being

An individuals’ ability to release and relinquish dissonant feelings reflective of emotions facilitates the integration and the revelation/self-realization of the self! It also results in transitioning and transforming behavior from rigidity to flexible cognitive thinking and intelligence. It enables them to achieve a deeper understanding of themselves and the human condition of others. A human beings ability to release physical pain as well enables them to lessen the impact of organic conditions. This humanistic approach based upon a profound understanding of the intensity of feeling reflective of emotions and how it can impact the expansion of flexible intelligence and free oneself from bondage is special, multi-sided and unique. It’s incumbent upon a human being to take and accept personal responsibility for their unhealthy dysfunctional behaviors. The use of emotional release techniques are a component of personal growth.

When a human being crosses the threshold after consistently practicing emotional release techniques and “arrives” at experiencing the human side of the human being from the “inside out” it can be said that the quality of true “insight” has been achieved. It’s a state of consciousness that only can be characterized as spiritual in nature.

When human beings learn to effectively “let go” emotionally the result is a multi-faceted human expansion spiritually, mentally, in spirit, emotionally, physically, heart, soul, socially, creatively, and an intuitive. There is an integration/inter-connective result!

In achieving this success humans beings flexible intelligence expands as well. It facilitates a human beings ability to function better in the wide world. It enables humankind to support each others functioning and reemergence from distress and dysfunctional issues. As it is said in twelve step programs “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and your wisdom to know the difference”.

I share and describe dynamic holistic methodologies in my writing that readers can choose from in order to address their own issues. It’s my hope that by my sharing my insights, my stories, and my individual and relationship examples, it will facilitate an understanding, a pathway for my reader’s own direction toward wholeness on their life’s journey. It’s my desire that readers will gain both awareness, and insight into their own physical as well as emotional challenges. When one becomes aware of issues that create disharmony for oneself within oneself then it’s possible to begin the quest of processing the feelings that create our compulsive and obsessive thoughts. “PEAR” is the key. “PEAR” is an acronym for “Process Everything and Recovery”, recover and integrate the components of the self hidden from view by hurt and trauma. It’s important to qualify “PEAR” by saying “Process Most Everything and Recover”. After all, let us not demand too much from ourselves but let allow us to process that which is most dysfunctional in our lives which keeps us in severe emotional or physical bondage!

When we become aware of our issues we can also become alert to when and how our issues are triggered. What are the circumstances, situations, and present experiences that cause us to act out behaviors that do not serve our well-beings?

Perhaps, readers will learn to embrace their so-called undesirable experiences and their outcomes. We can learn to embrace, transform, and transcend our issues and our experiences so that the qualities of faith, courage, perseverance, persistence, patience, and resiliency have a possibility of prevailing.

It’s true that many of our experiences may cause us “to feel” that we are more than challenged in our lives.

It’s in letting go of the intensities of feelings as it reflects our emotions in relationship to our experiences and outcomes (which may seem undesirable) where we can possibly gain spiritual and emotional strength to transform undesirable behaviors. In this way we learn to renew ourselves and keep on keeping on with added enthusiasm. We learn to acquire necessary information for our well-being, infuse energy within, take charge and act on our own behalf and others. We learn to follow through with purpose and follow through with our God given purpose and mission in our lives. As a result our fears, frustrations, disappointments, dissipate and we can experience a myriad of accomplishments. The secret is to practice methods that resonate with ourselves and that facilitate both transformation, transcendence, and going beyond from within! Yet, another secret is to become aware and alert to our distractions that cause us to direct our attention elsewhere and not within ourselves but keep our attention directed upon our issues. It is possible in this way that we learn never, never, never to give up but to take joy on our journey and in of our lives. The gain is in our self-esteem and self-worth. It’s a desirable goal and is in the nature of the human spirit!

For example, I think of the prisoner of war experience of the Republican candidate for the presidential race of 2008 Mr. John McCain who expresses his personal and more importantly spiritual growth he experienced at the so-called Hanoi Hilton while be a prisoner of war during the Vietnam era.

The essential element and goal of animated laughter is for participants to address their issues in a wacky, zany, outrageous ridiculously fun way, to heal, gain insight, release, relinquish, let go in an from an authentic emotional base from within, and have a great time while practicing the process. If need be even to be seemingly juvenile in the process because it’s whatever it takes to peel away the onion skins and reveal the hidden self, the authentic self. After all, inner child work is to be expected in Animated Laughter with Feelings”.

The process focuses on and is spare headed by the connected healing breath. The “breath” anchors the participant so he/she is in control so that their “letting go”, releasing, relinquishing of dissonant feelings is productive, efficient, and effective. The participant develops trust so that they dare to heal and transcend, transform, as well as go beyond any fear reflective of internalized self-consciousness/inhibitions, and internalized self-judgments. The self-consciousness and judgments inhibit the person from “letting go”. The breath facilitates a movement through the defenses and facilitates a connection with dissonant energies and on the exhale the release of those feelings reflective of emotions. The participant is free to have fun, and behave in a zany, silly, ridiculous manner.

Attitude can be everything and your will to do, willing to do, willingness to act, and commitment to the process of learning to feel ones feelings is facilitated by simply having the mindset that “I will have fun” and my process will be unbelievably hilarious without limit! After all, animated laughter is the best of the best medicine. We let go of what physiologically our body needs to release and relinquish through our laughter.

In addition, one of the chief goals of animated laughter with feelings is to use the power of our breath to connect with our life force, our life energy, along with connecting to the intensity of our feelings and emotions. Traditional verbal therapy can only go so far in achieving a client’s liberation of themselves. It’s in achieving this goal where “Animated Laughter with Feelings” finds its authenticity! After all it’s a healing process that we seek.

We have fun learning to naturally achieve this goal. There are times when our feelings/emotions are dissonant and toxic. They can keep us stuck from acting on our own behalf. They can be self-defeating and cause us to experience dysfunction, helplessness, hopelessness, and create a “self” destructive attitude for ourselves and others. The recent economic downturn in the USA and the world is producing sudden reactive situations of mass murder by individuals who have accumulated repressed and suppressed feelings reflective of the range of emotions, sadness through grief, fear through terror, and acting out their anger through rage. In addition, our physical pain can create emotional challengers for us. It can make our lives miserable. We can reduce our pain energy by applying a variety of methods that resonate with us and in fact hopefully bring about healing. It is then we can use methods as our circular connected healing breath to connect with our life force along with our intensities of feelings/emotions, and begin the process of emotional release. As we do, we become clearer in our connection with our life force, our primal energy, our spirit and our connection with our spiritual entity.

We have then invoked a spiritual entity to foster miraculous healing of our issues. It states in co-dependency literature that “we admit our powerlessness and make a decision to turn our will over in trust to our higher power”. The use of the circular healing breath with its emphasis on connecting with our feelings/emotions and learning the pattern of releasing them is a way for us to turn over our power in trust to a higher power and as it is well said “Let Go, let God in”. It’s part of the secret that we must do it again and again and again until will have achieved our goal. It’s in processing “enough” of our dissonant feelings that we transform our self-defeating, dysfunctional behaviors. Our patience, our persistence, and our perseverance add up to our tenacity in attaining our liberation, our complete humanistic liberation of the self. We have liberated ourselves from the accumulated stress, distress, and chronic distress that have plagued humankind from their full and complete use of their flexible innate intelligence.

This is a dynamically fun way to again and again connect with our life energy, become more present and connect with zest. In achieving this goal our hurt and imprinted emotional and physical traumas can be addressed and we can begin the healing process. In fact, “Animated Laughter with Feelings” removes the edge from stress, distress and facilitates connection with profounder feelings/emotions by using an animated primal laughter sound. It is a loving practice that facilitates access to profounder toxic feelings that facilitates and enables our healing.

With “Animated Laughter with Feelings”, we obtain an opportunity to expand our human qualities. The qualities are depicted in the pyramid which I described in “I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power” i.e., our mental, emotional, spirit, spiritual, physical, social, creative, intuitive, heart, and soul centers.

We sure do feel a lot better after a zany ten to twenty minute laughter session. It’s extremely hard to stay depressed or anxious after hilariously releasing our emotions with uncontrollable animated laughter! If and when healing is our goal, then daring to heal becomes significantly easier and enjoyable.

Many of us are plagued by anxiety and depression that can take charge of our beings. We can easily lose faith and move into emotional anxiety and depression when we continuously react and are not alert to and aware of the direction our emotions are taking us. Simply put, we may have reacted because of painful circumstances or situations whether they may be within or may not be within our control. We may have had a blink of the eye “knee jerk terrifying reaction” from an imprinted, embedded, ingrained, deeply rooted, deeply seated, hard wired, and genetically coded past trauma? These serious traumas can vary. For example a child may witness a parent’s death, a parent having multiple personalities, abandonment, betrayal, or separation, or a severe physical illness. It may result in a rigid, mechanical behavioral reaction that without our instantaneous alertness to take charge, the rigid behavioral reaction takes immediate charge of ourselves. Often, we are not in touch and aware of how lethal our “Knee Jerk Reaction” has manifested itself into a rigid reactive behavior that just does not become us.

“Animated Laughter with Feelings” can with the willingness and commitment of an individual facilitate a person taking charge of themselves when they feel anxious and depressed! Willingness to partake in a new experience often occurs when an individual is desperate. A serious illness like cancer can be a catalyst for an individual to participate and succeed in ALWF. An individual becomes motivated to learn to reconnect with and process “feelings” and the result is that a participant then reconnects with their life force within themselves! We can also develop the ability to move within a ten to twenty minute space of time from a mood of helplessness, victimhood, and hopelessness to an attitude of zest, proactive, positive, and feeling, sounding, emotionally in charge! We shed layers of our onion skin so we reconnect with our life force energy! Our senses become vibrant and we taste life again. The senses become alive. We live again and we even sound alive! We sound as though life is worth living! We produce an animated sound of life itself! Even our body language becomes animated!

If and when because of circumstances and situations we become triggered, restimulated, or stuck in our “stuff” then we simply once again become proactive and embark upon ten minute “Animated Laughter with Feeling” session. We just initiate once again another laughter session. We keep on keeping on until we have broken the chain that holds us in bondage. It’s a proven formula that works. I know because of my own experience with the process and the leader/facilitator of many ALWF classes.

Finally, the psychological result can be profound as well. Some participants gain insight into their issues as they and subsequent to their release of toxic feelings and emotions become clearer as to their hurt and traumatizing experiences. Participants reconnect with those parts of themselves that had become lost because of traumatizing past or most recent events in their lives.

We certainly reinvigorate the cells of our body because of the oxygen levels and release endorphins, opiates, dopamine and serotonin that strengthen the immune system.

At this time, please access the “Animated Laughter with Feelings” video on youtube.com. The video you shall see is but a ten minute segment of a seventy-five minute plus class. I will refer to “Animated Laughter with Feelings” in the book as AWLF.

Best

Joel V.