The Solution or Resoulution of Deeply Rooted Co-Dependency.
The answer is it's a gradual process. The processing must be effective, efficient, and disciplined. The self-talk, the use of the journal to write your voluntary history usually is most certainly not enough.
If the trauma is chronic then the use of alternative methods for effective, efficient, and disciplined processing of the deeply rootled, imprinted, ingrained, hard wired distress is just not enough.
If and when one just thinks rationally about chronic traumatic emotional, physical, or distress reflective of unfulfilled chonic needs;then any rational human being cannot help but to be skeptical of the so-called accepted "norms". It's incomprehensiveable to me that anyone can honestly say that both self-talk, prayers, and the use of a journal is enough to resolve deeply rooted, hard wired, ingrained, imprinted chronic traumatic distress. If it does then I wouldn't bet on it.
I've used a myriad of accepted cultural methods and alternative methods to relieve the effects of my anxiety. Together they're working for me. It's a gradual process. I've needed both accepted culturally and alternative methods to even begin to resolve my co-dependency.
Why this is so? It's the self-deception of "denial". If and when a human being begins to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to address the deeply rooted feelings reflective of the range of emotions anger through rage, fear through terror, and sadness through grief, "denial" will be encountered by the indiviudual. It's here where persistence, peseverance, and patience plays a strategic roll. However, it's the spiritual power that one connects with during the processing of the feelings reflective of the emotions that plays the, the most important roll.
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
Friday, April 22, 2011
Thursday, April 21, 2011
Memory and Emotion
Memory and Emotion
When we clear ourselves emotionally from stress,and distress our memory begins to improve! When our hurts and truamas (emotional, physical, and unfulfilled needs)begin to dissipate then our ability to remember becomes sharper and clearer. In fact, our memory becomes so clear; it can be said that our memory becomes crystal clear!
The use of "crystals" to facilitate clearing of ourselves from stress, and distress reflective of hurts and traumas can also be understand in its relationship to memory and well-being.
When we bring enough, enough oxygen into the cells of the body we also facilitate or reinvigorate our memories. The depth, the degree, and the dimension of oxygenating our cells of our body reinvigorates our ability to remember items quickly as well.
Learning to oxygenate our cells within our body reinvigorates the depth, the degree, and the dimension of our memories as well. The depth, the degree, and the dimension of our memories become clearer and have nuances of detail. The detail in detail of the memories reinvigorates our senses and positively impacts our memories. The clearing of our feelings reflective of our emotions reinvigorate the senses that impacts our remembering detail in detail of our memories.
It also triggers memories from past lives. The oxygen has the effect of facilitating time travel to past lives. The soul records each life we have lived and our infusing enough oxygen into the cells of our bodies facilitates memories from past lives. In essence, we experience time travel.
The memories of records reflective of our soul stores those memories. If and when we return to a place, a situation, a curcumstance it is then our senses become triggered, and our feelings reflective of our emotions remembers. In essence, somehow we know that we've been there before. I've personally experienced this in Barcelona, Spain, in Paris, France in Southern Sweden, in the State of Israel and in San Diego, California.
Please take a moment and explore the side panel of my books. Purchase the books. They can be acquired from my website, Barnes & Noble, Borders, Amazon.com, Amazon Kindle. I'm available for counseling, consulting, or presentations for fees and expenses. Please donate to the site as well. Donations can be made either on www.idaretoheal.blog.com or this one.
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Joel V. BA. Education, BBA, Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
When we clear ourselves emotionally from stress,and distress our memory begins to improve! When our hurts and truamas (emotional, physical, and unfulfilled needs)begin to dissipate then our ability to remember becomes sharper and clearer. In fact, our memory becomes so clear; it can be said that our memory becomes crystal clear!
The use of "crystals" to facilitate clearing of ourselves from stress, and distress reflective of hurts and traumas can also be understand in its relationship to memory and well-being.
When we bring enough, enough oxygen into the cells of the body we also facilitate or reinvigorate our memories. The depth, the degree, and the dimension of oxygenating our cells of our body reinvigorates our ability to remember items quickly as well.
Learning to oxygenate our cells within our body reinvigorates the depth, the degree, and the dimension of our memories as well. The depth, the degree, and the dimension of our memories become clearer and have nuances of detail. The detail in detail of the memories reinvigorates our senses and positively impacts our memories. The clearing of our feelings reflective of our emotions reinvigorate the senses that impacts our remembering detail in detail of our memories.
It also triggers memories from past lives. The oxygen has the effect of facilitating time travel to past lives. The soul records each life we have lived and our infusing enough oxygen into the cells of our bodies facilitates memories from past lives. In essence, we experience time travel.
The memories of records reflective of our soul stores those memories. If and when we return to a place, a situation, a curcumstance it is then our senses become triggered, and our feelings reflective of our emotions remembers. In essence, somehow we know that we've been there before. I've personally experienced this in Barcelona, Spain, in Paris, France in Southern Sweden, in the State of Israel and in San Diego, California.
Please take a moment and explore the side panel of my books. Purchase the books. They can be acquired from my website, Barnes & Noble, Borders, Amazon.com, Amazon Kindle. I'm available for counseling, consulting, or presentations for fees and expenses. Please donate to the site as well. Donations can be made either on www.idaretoheal.blog.com or this one.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA, Business Admin, M.A. Master's of Psychology Human Behavior
Thursday, April 14, 2011
The Underlining Horror and the Result that is Anxiety
The Underlining Horroor and the Result that is Anxiety
The resolution of of post traumatic stress disorder.
There is a horror that is triggered with Anxiety Disorder. Underlining the anxiety is always depth and layer or layers of from fear through terror. When one removes the feelings from fear through terror by way of a variey of methods one experiences a reduction in the anxiety. It's experiencing and processing the layers of feelings from fear through terror where the deep healing occurs.
The fog of fear terror must first be addressed. It can be addressd by way of the manifestations of emotional release. It's in the use of healing breath methods that the fog of fear through terror can be resolved. The circular breath process of connection, surrender, and release removes feelings from fear through terror underlying the constant anxiety. It's then that one can address the layers of ingrained, imprinted, hard wired, compulsive pattern of the anxiety resulting in post distress disorder.
The underlining pattern of anxiety has its depth, degree, and dimensions of fear through terror. It's here that the primal sound can be quite useful. The primal sound facilitates access to the profound feelings of fear through terror. It's here where healing truly begins. The resolution of the feelings from fear through terror layer by layer comprised of the emotional trauma (peeling the onion skins) results in authentic healing.
In summary the use of connected healing breath is instrumental in resolving feelings reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror. It's then the primal sound that facilitates access to the layers of imprinted, ingrained, hard wired compulsive layers of these feelings that are the anchoring and foundation of the anxiety.
Ongoing anxiety disorder is common. The resolution of anxiety disorder requires patience processing in depth of the feelings reflective of the issue of PTSD.
Please donate to the blog by clicking the button. The books are now available on kindle and the blogs will be available as well. I'm available for presentations for a fee and expenses. Please purchase the books located on the side panels.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Busines Admin., M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
The resolution of of post traumatic stress disorder.
There is a horror that is triggered with Anxiety Disorder. Underlining the anxiety is always depth and layer or layers of from fear through terror. When one removes the feelings from fear through terror by way of a variey of methods one experiences a reduction in the anxiety. It's experiencing and processing the layers of feelings from fear through terror where the deep healing occurs.
The fog of fear terror must first be addressed. It can be addressd by way of the manifestations of emotional release. It's in the use of healing breath methods that the fog of fear through terror can be resolved. The circular breath process of connection, surrender, and release removes feelings from fear through terror underlying the constant anxiety. It's then that one can address the layers of ingrained, imprinted, hard wired, compulsive pattern of the anxiety resulting in post distress disorder.
The underlining pattern of anxiety has its depth, degree, and dimensions of fear through terror. It's here that the primal sound can be quite useful. The primal sound facilitates access to the profound feelings of fear through terror. It's here where healing truly begins. The resolution of the feelings from fear through terror layer by layer comprised of the emotional trauma (peeling the onion skins) results in authentic healing.
In summary the use of connected healing breath is instrumental in resolving feelings reflective of the range of emotion from fear through terror. It's then the primal sound that facilitates access to the layers of imprinted, ingrained, hard wired compulsive layers of these feelings that are the anchoring and foundation of the anxiety.
Ongoing anxiety disorder is common. The resolution of anxiety disorder requires patience processing in depth of the feelings reflective of the issue of PTSD.
Please donate to the blog by clicking the button. The books are now available on kindle and the blogs will be available as well. I'm available for presentations for a fee and expenses. Please purchase the books located on the side panels.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Busines Admin., M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Sunday, April 10, 2011
Assumptions, Hypothetical Cases, Conclusions, Control
Assumptions, Hypothetical Cases, Conclusions, Control
The four components of co-dependence are patterns of control of others, compliance to others (a pattern of fixing, pleasing others as it reflects situations/circumstances, the big component of being a being in denial of ones' patterns and low self-esteem.
Sometimes our patterns or insecurities cause us to make judgments which result in our needs reflective of neediness to control situations, people, or cirucumstances. Sometimes we strive for understanding in order to control a set of circumstances or a situation. We can then make assumptions, create hypothetical cases, formulate conclusions in order to control people, circumstances, or situations. In reality we are creating hypothetical cases that reinforce our need to reflect of our neediness to experience security; usually emotional security.
It's important for us to become aware of and alert to making erroneous judgments and creating hypothetical cases because of a need or neediness to arrive at a solution or resolution of a situation because of our need to control.
There are times when we are not alert to or aware of our responses and reactions that cause us to make assumptions, judgments, create hypothetical cases, and arrive at conclusions. The reason could be our fears that result in our patterns. Often, we've been hurt or traumatized early on in our childhoods.
If we are willing to do inner child work regardless of the chosen process; we can recognize, begin to become aware of and awaken to consciousness our reasons for our behaviors. It's incumbent upon us to do the personal growth work and process our feelings reflective of our emotions and effectively, efficiently, with discipline again, and again, and again to address our patterns of co-dependencies.
I write about inner child work in my books. Please take a moment to check them out on the side panel, purchase many of them. The books are now available on Kindle. I'm available for presentations, for fees and expenses and available for spiritual counseling/consulting work here in San Diego or by phone at 619-584-8093. It's also possible to click the "donate" button and send a contribution to Life's Breath Publications and Ministries to support my writing that empowers others through my loving insights. Please check out the website as well.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
The four components of co-dependence are patterns of control of others, compliance to others (a pattern of fixing, pleasing others as it reflects situations/circumstances, the big component of being a being in denial of ones' patterns and low self-esteem.
Sometimes our patterns or insecurities cause us to make judgments which result in our needs reflective of neediness to control situations, people, or cirucumstances. Sometimes we strive for understanding in order to control a set of circumstances or a situation. We can then make assumptions, create hypothetical cases, formulate conclusions in order to control people, circumstances, or situations. In reality we are creating hypothetical cases that reinforce our need to reflect of our neediness to experience security; usually emotional security.
It's important for us to become aware of and alert to making erroneous judgments and creating hypothetical cases because of a need or neediness to arrive at a solution or resolution of a situation because of our need to control.
There are times when we are not alert to or aware of our responses and reactions that cause us to make assumptions, judgments, create hypothetical cases, and arrive at conclusions. The reason could be our fears that result in our patterns. Often, we've been hurt or traumatized early on in our childhoods.
If we are willing to do inner child work regardless of the chosen process; we can recognize, begin to become aware of and awaken to consciousness our reasons for our behaviors. It's incumbent upon us to do the personal growth work and process our feelings reflective of our emotions and effectively, efficiently, with discipline again, and again, and again to address our patterns of co-dependencies.
I write about inner child work in my books. Please take a moment to check them out on the side panel, purchase many of them. The books are now available on Kindle. I'm available for presentations, for fees and expenses and available for spiritual counseling/consulting work here in San Diego or by phone at 619-584-8093. It's also possible to click the "donate" button and send a contribution to Life's Breath Publications and Ministries to support my writing that empowers others through my loving insights. Please check out the website as well.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Saturday, April 2, 2011
Sensations!
Sensations!
The sensations of taste, smell, hearing, seeing, and touch allow us to experience instantaneous impulses of feelings reflective of emotions. The five sensations are the gates to our feelngs reflective of our emotions.
Feelings are very different from sensations. There are pleasant and unpleasant sensations. For example, one can experience feelings of love and a sensation of a loving touch. The sensation of a loving touch can trigger feelings of love for the person who reached out for or to the other.
The sensation from a loving, nurturing, warm touch usually is desirable. Of course, it can be undesirable if and when the nurturing touch triggers feelings reflective of the dark emotions, anger, fear, sad. These emotions can reflect issues; trust issues abandonment, betrayal, and separation.
Here is another example of the difference between sensation and feelings. The feelings of love can be communicated verbally or through touch. The "feelings" reflective of love just seem to go deeper than a sensation. An analogy is the pebble or stone thrown in the lake. The pebble or stone as it enters the lake is the sensation and the the circular waves of water are the feelings that reflect the sensation of the pebble or stone entering the lake.
One feels nurtured, embraced warmly by a hug, the eye contact and body language of the individual expressing love is "felt" by the receiver maybe in a secure, and safe way. The sensation of the hug results of waves of feelings through the body.
One can also experience feelings of fear, a range of emotion from fear through terror, and a sensation of intimidation. Here again, the intimidation can be described as the stone and the result are feelings of fear that radiate through the body.
It can work in the opposite way. A sense of intimidation can trigger feelings of fear and the range of emotion from fear through terror as well
The sensations reflectve of emotions can be essential keys to opening ourselves to serenity!
Please take a moment to check out my books on the side panel. They are treasures and available through Barnes and Noble my website, www.idaretoheal.com, and Borders Book Stores. They will soon be available to read on kindle! I'm available for counseling, phone consulting, presentations for fees and expenses. If you enjoy my writing consider donating to the blogs through the donate or pay pal buttons on the blogs.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior, Psychology
The sensations of taste, smell, hearing, seeing, and touch allow us to experience instantaneous impulses of feelings reflective of emotions. The five sensations are the gates to our feelngs reflective of our emotions.
Feelings are very different from sensations. There are pleasant and unpleasant sensations. For example, one can experience feelings of love and a sensation of a loving touch. The sensation of a loving touch can trigger feelings of love for the person who reached out for or to the other.
The sensation from a loving, nurturing, warm touch usually is desirable. Of course, it can be undesirable if and when the nurturing touch triggers feelings reflective of the dark emotions, anger, fear, sad. These emotions can reflect issues; trust issues abandonment, betrayal, and separation.
Here is another example of the difference between sensation and feelings. The feelings of love can be communicated verbally or through touch. The "feelings" reflective of love just seem to go deeper than a sensation. An analogy is the pebble or stone thrown in the lake. The pebble or stone as it enters the lake is the sensation and the the circular waves of water are the feelings that reflect the sensation of the pebble or stone entering the lake.
One feels nurtured, embraced warmly by a hug, the eye contact and body language of the individual expressing love is "felt" by the receiver maybe in a secure, and safe way. The sensation of the hug results of waves of feelings through the body.
One can also experience feelings of fear, a range of emotion from fear through terror, and a sensation of intimidation. Here again, the intimidation can be described as the stone and the result are feelings of fear that radiate through the body.
It can work in the opposite way. A sense of intimidation can trigger feelings of fear and the range of emotion from fear through terror as well
The sensations reflectve of emotions can be essential keys to opening ourselves to serenity!
Please take a moment to check out my books on the side panel. They are treasures and available through Barnes and Noble my website, www.idaretoheal.com, and Borders Book Stores. They will soon be available to read on kindle! I'm available for counseling, phone consulting, presentations for fees and expenses. If you enjoy my writing consider donating to the blogs through the donate or pay pal buttons on the blogs.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA Business Admin, M.A. Masters of Human Behavior, Psychology
Friday, March 18, 2011
Intimate Relationships - The Right Fit
Intimate Relationships - The Right Fit
Do you have the right fit in your intimate relationship? Do you complement each other or do you comply, fix, control, please, each other? If and when you are most of the time complying, fixing, controlling, and pleasing your significant other; that's co-dependency.
When you communicate with each other is it reactive or is your communication responsive? Are you somewhat or highly co-dependent in your relationship. Are you both as one with yourselves as possible and communicate with each other for the most part as whole human beings?
If your communication is reactive then your communication comes from suppressed feelings, hurt, unfulfilled needs, and traumatized feelings reflective of emotions that have taken the form of unaware unhealthy behavior patterns that result in reactions to each other. The reactions are unhealthy and mostly likely cause conflict and unhappiness.
Many people just stay in these relationships usually because of their fear which prevents them from leaving them. There are few individuals in these reactive relationships that decide to reach out and seek clarity as to why they react to each other and not respond to each other. Usually, the reason is suppressed feelings of the emotion of fear.
There are several reasons for reactive relationships. For one, participants have fallen into the pattern of reflecting each others neediness with the hope of filling their unfulfilled needs. For two, the pattern of reaction has become common place, compulsive, imprinted, ingrained, and hard wired. The participants are just use to reacting to each other instead of recognizing the need to go within and address their unfulfilled needs. Also, people are afraid of becoming lonely or just experiencing solitud and the pain that bubbles up from its experience. They would rather stay in an unhealthy releationship.
In any healthy relationship the partners recognize, acknowledge the existence of issues. Partners learn about their own issues. They stay alert, and aware of their own issues and find ways to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to process them again, again, again, and again. If and when issues are to be resolved; the feelings reflective of the emotions underlying the issues most be processed with zest and enthusiasm!
Unfortuntely, denial is just too common. It seems to be the rule and common to the human experience. Humankind compensates for reality by small talk, by displacing their feelings reflective of their aunthentic emotions with inauthentic behaviors. It's just easier to stay unreal instead of addressing feelings reflective of emotions that reflect issues.
What is your personality dynamic with yourself and in your relationship with others. Do you come from a loving space of kindness in setting boundaries for yourself and other? Are you consistent in your processing your stess and distress so that you stay connected to your higher power? These are just some questions for you to ponder.
Please check out and purchase my books on the side panel. I'm available for presentations, for fees, and expenses or counseling over the phone at 619-584-8093.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters in Psychology, Human Behavior.
Do you have the right fit in your intimate relationship? Do you complement each other or do you comply, fix, control, please, each other? If and when you are most of the time complying, fixing, controlling, and pleasing your significant other; that's co-dependency.
When you communicate with each other is it reactive or is your communication responsive? Are you somewhat or highly co-dependent in your relationship. Are you both as one with yourselves as possible and communicate with each other for the most part as whole human beings?
If your communication is reactive then your communication comes from suppressed feelings, hurt, unfulfilled needs, and traumatized feelings reflective of emotions that have taken the form of unaware unhealthy behavior patterns that result in reactions to each other. The reactions are unhealthy and mostly likely cause conflict and unhappiness.
Many people just stay in these relationships usually because of their fear which prevents them from leaving them. There are few individuals in these reactive relationships that decide to reach out and seek clarity as to why they react to each other and not respond to each other. Usually, the reason is suppressed feelings of the emotion of fear.
There are several reasons for reactive relationships. For one, participants have fallen into the pattern of reflecting each others neediness with the hope of filling their unfulfilled needs. For two, the pattern of reaction has become common place, compulsive, imprinted, ingrained, and hard wired. The participants are just use to reacting to each other instead of recognizing the need to go within and address their unfulfilled needs. Also, people are afraid of becoming lonely or just experiencing solitud and the pain that bubbles up from its experience. They would rather stay in an unhealthy releationship.
In any healthy relationship the partners recognize, acknowledge the existence of issues. Partners learn about their own issues. They stay alert, and aware of their own issues and find ways to effectively, efficiently, with discipline to process them again, again, again, and again. If and when issues are to be resolved; the feelings reflective of the emotions underlying the issues most be processed with zest and enthusiasm!
Unfortuntely, denial is just too common. It seems to be the rule and common to the human experience. Humankind compensates for reality by small talk, by displacing their feelings reflective of their aunthentic emotions with inauthentic behaviors. It's just easier to stay unreal instead of addressing feelings reflective of emotions that reflect issues.
What is your personality dynamic with yourself and in your relationship with others. Do you come from a loving space of kindness in setting boundaries for yourself and other? Are you consistent in your processing your stess and distress so that you stay connected to your higher power? These are just some questions for you to ponder.
Please check out and purchase my books on the side panel. I'm available for presentations, for fees, and expenses or counseling over the phone at 619-584-8093.
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Masters in Psychology, Human Behavior.
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Unwarranted Guilt - It's Time to Set Boundaries
Unwarranted Guilt - It's Time to Set Boundaries
Have you ever felt guilty? There are many reasons one experiences guilt. Guilt hurts. Guilt is more of a sensation than it is a feeling. Though, one can very well have feelings of guilt.
There are many reasons why an individual experiences guilt. Perhaps you just couldn't be there for another person emotionally. Perhaps you were "made" to feel guilty by another person. Of course, one can buy into feeling guilt through intimidation. If you were "made" to feel guilty then perhaps you bought into another persons judgement of you? The above examples are unwarranted guilt and require and individual to set cognitive, spiritual, and emotional boundaries for themselves.
It's important for individuals to realize when they internalize unwarranted guilt. If and when a person does so it's co-dependence. They need to realize that they must set boundaries in their thinking and therefore their emotions so that they do not internalize the guilt and experience self-invalidation and lower self-esteem. It can be quite a challenge expecially with your family of origin. Your indigenous family may have laid guilt upon and in you.
There are certain important co-dependent themes that are triggered. A person needs to realize that only he/she could empower themselves to take charge of their own lives. He/She could make the necessary changes that would impact their own lives. For example, becoming alert to and aware of when to set boundaries for themselves in their thinking, and in their feeling.
It becomes emotionally difficult to set boundaries with someone who you love. It becomes difficult to watch someone you love continually hurt themselves. It becomes difficult to watch them destroy themselves. The guilt and the helplessness becomes overwhelming when you don't realize that you are "powerless over others behaviors".
It's at these times it becomes urgent to set firm boundaries for oneself, firm emotional boundaries and to use self talk, to firmly say stop to oneself. We can also use our connection to our higher power to set boundaries for ourselves.
I need to stay concious of my thoughts regarding caring about others. I need to say "stop" to myself in my thinking if and when I begin to have too many thoughts regarding my caring. When I stay conscious of my thoughts I can eliminate my emotional involvement. I validate myself. I think well of myself. This is healthy and common sense.
Please check out and purchase my books on the side panels. I'm available for counseling and consulting worldwide. I'm also available for presentation. My contact information is on my website at www.idaretoheal.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
Have you ever felt guilty? There are many reasons one experiences guilt. Guilt hurts. Guilt is more of a sensation than it is a feeling. Though, one can very well have feelings of guilt.
There are many reasons why an individual experiences guilt. Perhaps you just couldn't be there for another person emotionally. Perhaps you were "made" to feel guilty by another person. Of course, one can buy into feeling guilt through intimidation. If you were "made" to feel guilty then perhaps you bought into another persons judgement of you? The above examples are unwarranted guilt and require and individual to set cognitive, spiritual, and emotional boundaries for themselves.
It's important for individuals to realize when they internalize unwarranted guilt. If and when a person does so it's co-dependence. They need to realize that they must set boundaries in their thinking and therefore their emotions so that they do not internalize the guilt and experience self-invalidation and lower self-esteem. It can be quite a challenge expecially with your family of origin. Your indigenous family may have laid guilt upon and in you.
There are certain important co-dependent themes that are triggered. A person needs to realize that only he/she could empower themselves to take charge of their own lives. He/She could make the necessary changes that would impact their own lives. For example, becoming alert to and aware of when to set boundaries for themselves in their thinking, and in their feeling.
It becomes emotionally difficult to set boundaries with someone who you love. It becomes difficult to watch someone you love continually hurt themselves. It becomes difficult to watch them destroy themselves. The guilt and the helplessness becomes overwhelming when you don't realize that you are "powerless over others behaviors".
It's at these times it becomes urgent to set firm boundaries for oneself, firm emotional boundaries and to use self talk, to firmly say stop to oneself. We can also use our connection to our higher power to set boundaries for ourselves.
I need to stay concious of my thoughts regarding caring about others. I need to say "stop" to myself in my thinking if and when I begin to have too many thoughts regarding my caring. When I stay conscious of my thoughts I can eliminate my emotional involvement. I validate myself. I think well of myself. This is healthy and common sense.
Please check out and purchase my books on the side panels. I'm available for counseling and consulting worldwide. I'm also available for presentation. My contact information is on my website at www.idaretoheal.com
Best
Joel V. BA. Education, BBA. Business Admin. M.A. Master's of Psychology, Human Behavior.
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