Powerless Over Others Behavior!
"I'm powerless over others and my life as become unmanageable." We begin our journey to "recovery" in Co-dependent Anonymous (twelve step group)when we begin to "acknowledge", become "aware"/"alert", to this statement. When our lives have become dysfunctional, confused, compromised, and are lives have begun to disintegrate. When the "self" has begun to disintegrate and the "self" has become vulnerable to guilt, shame, anxiety, and depression!
In the musical "Chicago", the character sings "cellophane" man. He sings a song of self abuse!
We gradually learn to "set boundaries" for ourselves (emotional, economic) and with others. We gradually commit ourselves to "set boundaries". We learn to say "NO" to others "needs" and more importantly others "neediness"! We learn to say "NO" first to ourselves. We learn to stop "fixing" others. We learn that others must "fix" themselves.
It's confusing because sometimes others "needs" are rational but sometimes others "needs" and "neediness" are irrational. We become hurt and sometimes traumatized. When we become "overwhelmed", "vulnerable", and when our economic, emotional boundaries have disintegrated, it's time to "take charge" of ourselves again, and again, again.
We begin to recreate parts of ourselves that we have lost to our disease of co-dependency. It takes time but it's most certainly worth the journey.
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Best
Joel V. BA, Education, BBA, Business Admin, M.A. Psychology of Human Behavior
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