Controllers - Two

The four categories of co-dependence are those who harbor patterns of controll over others, those who comply with those who control, those who are in denial, and finally those who have low self-esteem.

Those who have patterns of control are usually deceptive in their behaviors. The person who harbors control can be a family member, an employer, a friend, an associate on the job, or a public governmental entity. Can you think of someone in your environment who fits the "controller" description?

Sometimes, it's clear and evident by their words, body language, and actions. Sometimes, it's very unclear and perhaps their words are glib. One example is the person who has a controlling behavior lacks "feelings" underlying their words.

Another example is the person who harbors control, when challenged, will rage in a vicious, paralyzing way. This type of person may crave unrelentless, undivided attention. The attention from another person may fill an unfulfilled need. The person who gives the attention or complies with the need for attention unknowingly fuels the controllers' neediness.

Yet another example is the classic bully whose attitude is outright invalidating and intimidating. Then, there is the controller who manipulates others by words, body language, and actions. The manipulator will pray upon others vulnerabilities to comply with their desires or needs. They may convince another person that they should feel this way or should think this way. I will give additional examples in future posts.

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Joel V.