Resolving Your Co-Dependence!

Resolving Your Co-Dependence

I just left a co-dependent meeting where enough new participants were "stuck" in their stories, their dramas of anxiety, fear, depression, neediness, hopelessness, and disconnect from God (their higher power).

Several of the experienced participants shared their hope, their strength, their experience, their improved connection to their family members, and their connection to God and their higher power.

In the USA there definitely is drama to many stories. I'm sure it exists in many countries. I'd like to point out Elin Woods story. How she is matter of fact even though as she claims "has been through a great deal".

I lived seven years in Scandinavia and speak fluently a Scandinavian language. Elin is Swedish. As I assimilated into the society, I also learned to become quite matter a fact about situations, circumstances, and life's issues. However, I didn't disconnect emotionally from my feelings. It's different elsewhere, in other countries. Of course, it's inapproriate to "generalize".

In Scandnavia, I learned Re-evaluation Co-counseling or rc.org. I "disciplined" myself I learned it was natural to feel my feelings (connect and release, relinquish, let go, trasmit pain and painful feelings "out" of my body, in a disciplined way), and learned to effectively/efficiently use the ten or eleven manifestations of emotional release; animated laughter, elongated yawn, tearing, sobbing, shaking, chattering, hot, cold sweats, anger sounds/movements, scratching (it's under my skin and I just need to get it out) to move the energy out of body and "transform". I learned primal sound which enabled me to "go deeper" into my "stuck" emotions, access them, and then release, relinquish, let go, and even trasmit those feelings reflective of my emotions out of my body. I learned it was "natural", liberating, and precious to do so! The discipline to do so helped me in a huge way with both the pain I experienced having a total knee replacement and a total hip replacement. No, it's not a "mood" disorder. For haven sakes, psychologists, psychiatrists, please stop with your insanity diagnosis reflective of the DSM-IV. I know the game, "you need a diagnosis". Please tell your practitioner to get their head out, out of the DSM-IV. Truely, there are many compassionate, good, helpful psychiatrists, and psychologists.

One way therapy is but the beginning of the process world!

You are in charge and not your patterns. I know it's quite difficult to "discern" the difference between the patterns and "yourself"! The anxiety, fear, sad, anger, neediness, depression gets, gets in the way. I have great compassion for those who struggle, who suffer. I was one of you 40 years ago.

I have to admit the training I received going for my Marriage Family Therapy License was and is the pits. It's the reason I got my Master's in Human Behavior. The rigidities that exist in the profession and humankind contradict integration of self and not enhance the integration of self. I can tell you stories but I won't.

I think, truely, think it's time for humankind to just "get real" and educate themselves on accessing, connecting to, and learning the different manifestations of emotional release and become "well"! The knee jerk reaction by many is to become defensive, denial, and go deaf. It's all "fear"; it's all patterns. The patterns are boring, quick frankly. Whether it's negative ego, controlling rigidity, or ignorance, beliefs, values, and/or traits. It's still "patterns" reflective of "fear".

When you have released, relinquished, let go of, trasmitted the pain out of your body, what's left. Self-Love, Grace, Kindness, Caring, Affection, Connection to God, Authentic connection to others, Compassion, Forgiveness, Hope, Faith, Charity, Good Will, Peace, and Contentment.

Trust me, it really, really feels good! I truely wish it within everyone. It's the only way to be.

Please check out my website, www.idaretoheal.com, purchase my books, "I Dare to Heal with Compassionate Love", and "I Dare to Heal with Spiritual Power". I'm available for counseling on co-dependency issues here in San Diego, California. Please check out my website, www.healthplansinsandiego.com and purchase individual medical insurance, MediCare insurance (certified in most of the companies) or small group medical.

Best
Joel V. BA, Education, BBA, Business Admin. M.A. Masters of Psychology, Human Behavior.